"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My ex who recently broke up our relationship a few months back invited me to her 18th b-day party at a hotel. She is an 8.5 and was a very good fuk-buddy and friend of mine.

If I can, I would like to start our fuking relationship again. So I was thinking about what I could do to get her attracted to me again during the party.


I came up with the following to do during the party, please critic and add some more:

*Jealousy: Talk to other girls and make them laugh

*Be center of attention or the "fun guy"

*Tell interesting stories (BS if I run out of good ones)

*Don't get too drunk and try to make out with another girl or get lipstick on my neck so my ex will see.

any more tips?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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But I am not an old man either, she is close to my age group
 

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If I can, I would like to start our fuking relationship again.
Look deeply into her eyes and say the above words. Girls love sincerity.

She will melt.
 

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Unregistered makes a good point. You could say that... but only AFTER you've done your above mentioned party traits.

Get her attention and interest level up first. :) Because you don't know how she'll respond proir to having those feelings.

Just don't take too long. She might just hook up with someone else at the party. :-D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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your setting yourself up for a downfall.....

Just be yourself and everything else will flow. Don't spend your time concentrating on pre though of moves/topics/convo's. People are smarter than you think and see through that sh#t right away. Concentrate on just having fun, being in the moment.
 

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*Don't get too drunk and try to make out with another girl or get lipstick on my neck so my ex will see.
I don't think this is a good idea.


My advice: do what you originally did to make her attracted to you. It shouldn't take more than that. She's attracted to you, and she obviously still likes you as a person if she's inviting you to her party. Just lay on the charm.
 

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I agree, Let your ex see another chick giving you head, it will be far more effective, I'm serious aswell.
If you're weak you should try that.

If you're a true man, bring an army of hookers, swingers, cross-dressers, and other sexual deviants to her party and partake in a 24-hour, hot, lubricated, steamy public fvckfest. She'll want you afterwards. Though you might want to take the gerbils out of your anus before you kiss her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Unregistered
Though you might want to take the gerbils out of your anus before you kiss her.
Why?

~Vibe~
 

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Just dont think about it too much, your giving her too much atention just by it. You're focusing your entire night on HER, instead of focusing on YOU. Girls are atracted by guys who dont care. I can see by your post that she'll realize who you're focusing on. Dont let it happen.
 

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My ex who recently broke up
so she broke up with YOU right?

IF you don't mind, might I ask why?


Something else, why on earth would you want to continue anytype of semi-serious relationship with someone that has broken up with you.



something else that REALLY doesn't make sense to me, is how you are going to a party, with hot women there, and you will go out of your way to game these perfectly ripe girls just waiting to be plucked up :) , only to get the girl who broke up with you to like you again?

Is it just me, or is that ******* backwards?

I mean, if it's just sex... it can be JUST sex with someone without the baggage of having a past relationship.


I am pretty sure the reason she invited you if she broke off the relationship is to make yOU jealous, probably is talking to one of the guys that will be there and will be all on him to get at you.. I hope that's not the case for your sake, but my opint is you don't have time for these games.

If you go to the party, go to have FUN, not to have an agenda. If she wants to bang you, it's up to you if you want to bang her, but don't go with the idea that I am going to be the life of the party so that she can want me again, you are setting yourself up for failure
 

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how bout you go to the party, wish your ex a happy birth day BE YOURSELF and have a good time?...wow wait a minute that sounds to cazy to be good errrrrr...go to the party WASTED off your @ss bring some hoodlems and prostitutes (also wasted off their asses) and make sure your ex has no chance of getting her deposit back!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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