"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wussed out

nesblu

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Today I realized that I finally have to do something about my confidence and approach game. Ever since the school year started I haven't talked to any girls I don't know, since its so far out of my comfort zone.

Today I came in after school to take a physics test and in the room there was only me and this HB8.5. When I walked in she said that the teacher is gone and will be in shortly I also asked her if shes taking the same test as me and she said yes. At this point the conversation stopped and I decided to take a seat 2 desks away from her. After the test (we finished at the same time) she walked out and as I was walking out, she seemed to stall and look for something In her bag (IOI) as if she wanted me to approach. My AA got the best of me and I just walked away and didn't even ask her what she thought of the test.

This is just one of the numerous incidents where I was given something great but pussied out and achieved nothing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Young Money

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I feel for you bro, I have a lot of these scenarios and they still get to me today.

This is the way I am going to start thinking about it from now on. I will PROBABLY BE DEAD IN 50 YEARS! I WILL BE OLD SOON! get a ****ing move on and enjoy life while young.
 

Amo

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Don't think ahead. Just concentrate on getting up and taking that first step. The rest will follow.

I use that method for everything from my homework to approaching women.
 

fertileTurtle

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Do a google search on cold reads and make a commitment to study and practice them every time you talk to a girl. You will make mistakes and will never be perfect, so learn to cut against the grain. It's all part of the fun.
 

fertileTurtle

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A recent cold read I made was after a neg. I told a girl her boots didnt match her belt. She qualified herself by explaining the situation to me. I then told her she was brave and independent because she would make decisions despite others opinions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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fertileTurtle

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You have to have the mindset that it's just practice and it doesn't mean much. You'll have thousands of approaches in your DJ life so have fun and approach often. If something embarrassing happens act like it didnt and learn from it.
 

LearningSlowly

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When you focus on the moment, you feel this almost-pain in your stomach. Sort of like butterflies, but weaker/stronger depending on the situation. When you can really feel it, it's the most invigorating feeling in the world.

The advice on cold reads is good. I use cold reads a lot now, I learned about them before this site.
 
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