"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WTH Happened?

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Alright Fellas help me out. So I go on this date with this girl for the 4th time. We go to dinner she picks me up, and on the way home she says can I be direct with you, what do you want from me. My response is i thought you were cute and I thought we should start dating. Then we park the car and we talk about what we are looking for in a significant other. We make jokes and laugh in the car for 10 minutes. We go over the prior dates and what each other were thinking prior and during the date. Then we hold hands and start making out. Then I asked her what do you want, she say's I don't know. I thought you were a partier and etc, etc. You have enough fun for everyone don't you. I was like there is alot more substance to me than you thought there was. So then as she drive me home a few blocks later I get a couple more kisses then she says that enough and that's the end of the date. WTH just happened??

My gut says to stop pursuing, and let her intitate from here on out. But my heart says to give her time and call her back in a week. Lay it on me fellas what do I do? The sequence of events just throws me off, if she doesn't want to see me anymore why all the kino, kissing, and discussion and indecisiveness. This woman has me totally confused.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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quit worrying, and analyzing. Whats so confusing? Shes trying to figure out if your a player or not, or if you'll hurt her. It doesnt matter, anyway. If shes attracted, shes attracted. Its as simple as that. And dont try to convince her your not a player. Just be the best YOU, that you can.
 
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I mean you just laid a lot on the girl, so her mind is telling her to think it through.

In the future, never tell a girl you're interested in 'dating'. It's the holy grail of mistakes to tell a girl you want her to be the only girl in your life before she's said her piece.

Smothering is the #1 reason women get turned off by men, and a lot of women want to be the one wanting a relationship before their men do.

I don't think you really scared her off; it's not like you told her that you loved her or anything, but you did make her step back and THINK a little bit.

Remember, women DO want to feel wanted, but they must want that thing first before.

Nine times out of ten, a successful relationship (for the man at least) begins with the woman asking the man for more. The man ponders a bit, he reciprocates if he thinks it's worth it. He's not overbearing however, and he doesn't change his demeanor or character just for the girl. He gives her love, but he stays his own person the whole time. This is the man women want.

Don't let yourself get caught up in this whole 'reshaping' of yourself as soon as you get in to a relationship. It's toxic to interest level and dulls things out. Keep it exciting. Don't push yourself 100% in to it, because what's left if she breaks it off? Zip.
 
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The confusing part is I intiated all 4 dates over a months span. So I would think she would know that I was interested. That question really baffled me at the time. My course of action now go cold turkey and cut off communication with her and let her intiate things. Right?
 
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