"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i went out with her, then saw a movie at my house. and just at the start of sex she flakes and goes home. we were kissing and touching and she was receptive but suddenly...whatever.

however it was an improvement as she's quite older than me, not a bad achievement

i'm not sad or angry I just would like to know what I could possibly did wrong.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You didn't do anything wrong, she just had a change of heart and left!

The worst thing you could do now is a) seem bothered by it and b) seek validation from her.

Just put it behind you and move on.
 
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thanks, that's what I like to think. my friend vodka also agrees.

if it wasn't for this site I would have turned neurotic a long time ago.

and I ****ed up a bit when she asked if I was nervous (of course I was, she was the oldest women ever to have me and the only one in my life that made me actually like to spend time with her, so it was a new feeling for me) but I kept my pride telling her I wasn't nervous at all. Do you think I should have told her the truth?

damn I love this forum
 
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and I know she likes me, she says I'm not like the boys she had before (for better of course) and she actually made me meet her friends (and they loved me as everyone else). I think I tried too hard, mainly because she is way more experienced than me

I'm cold so I don't give a fvck, yet she was the only women ever to make me think about the possibility of a longer-term relationship, so it's normal that I think about it...
 
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genao said:
i'm not sad or angry I just would like to know what I could possibly did wrong.
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Without a play-by-play of what happened, it's hard to say what actually happened. But by the sound of it, you're getting more action than you previously did in life, so you're going to learn what you're doing wrong when you notice patterns. If EVERY woman fvcks off in the middle of sex, then you know that you're the common denominator in the situation and you need to figure out why it's happening.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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genao said:
i'm not sad or angry I just would like to know what I could possibly did wrong.
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She's not obligated to give you sex, you know. Sounds like it was a first date. Maybe she wasn't ready to give it up that fast. Maybe she has a "not on the first date" rule. I'd just forget it and see if she'll go out with you again. If so, it's probably all right. If not, then she apparently wasn't feeling you.
 
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yes it was our first time alone. yes I behaved like I never seen a girl when we we're just getting started. yes my mind likes to play tricks on me.

meh just a while ago she said she "was stupid" and that "she liked me very much". I guess she was the nervous one

she also mentioned that she never did that before (although I don't know what was THAT, I suppose it's because she never had anyone as young as me)
 
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genao said:
yes it was our first time alone. yes I behaved like I never seen a girl when we we're just getting started. yes my mind likes to play tricks on me.

meh just a while ago she said she "was stupid" and that "she liked me very much". I guess she was the nervous one

she also mentioned that she never did that before (although I don't know what was THAT, I suppose it's because she never had anyone as young as me)
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did she call you or text you? if she called did she sound remorseful and offer to make it up to you?
 
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text. yes she seemed remorseful, I don't know how to translate the word but she meant it was stupid of her part and she would like us not to be awkward, as she said she diggs me quite a lot. the usual blablabla
 
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There's nothing to worry about here, this is very normal for a first date. She seems interested, the only way you could screw this up is to push too hard for sex or the opposite extreme of letting it upset to the point that you don't initiate anymore. Stay the course, don't let this rattle you, and you'll be fine.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the only thing I'm pushing too hard is for her not to be ashamed that I'm 19, I now I shouldn't (and I try not to be) but she's quite different from the female noobs of my age. she is interesting, not the regular booty call I wanted before. well I guess I'll keep my normal relaxed state. it's hard but the game is an art itself so I, as an artist, must keep creating ;)

thanks, all your responses were helpfull.
any recomendations else please say... the goal here is to learn and no one knows everything :)
 
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