"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kailex

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I basically met a girl online and we went out on a date not even a week after. Very pretty and cute girl, with a sweet appearance... but man, she went off on the way I dressed and stated I had overdressed just a little and that she didn't like my shoes.

We went bowling and I thought I was just fine. Overdressed? No. Not the best shoes I've ever had, maybe. But out of the 2 hours we spent, she spent at least 1 cracking jokes. I tried to be a champ about it at first but it eventually wore on me.

Something so NOT sexy about a woman ragging on a man based on their level of insecurity.

Saddest part was that the date ended with the most awkard kiss on the cheek and hug ever.
So I figure, we're never talking again, right?

Well, yesterday, she viewed my profile and today I had this email waiting for me:

"This is kinda late, but I just wanted to thank you for the bowling game Saturday night; and the "drink"...lol. I had fun - hope I didn't bore you too much


Have a good day!"



Okay, so why reach out to me like that?
Is this just a thank you but move on?
The date was Saturday and this email is on now Tuesday. I haven't even texted her.

PS: I had a date on Sunday with another plate that was absolutely amazing, loved my style and was definitely 1000000000 times better. Definite connection there after laying down the foundation of what has become me Post-DJ Bible.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds like she is playing you using the same techniques a lot of guys talk about on this site ;-) push/pull, neg, whatever you wanna call it.
 

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Kailex said:
PS: I had a date on Sunday with another plate that was absolutely amazing, loved my style and was definitely 1000000000 times better. Definite connection there after laying down the foundation of what has become me Post-DJ Bible.
Since you're spinning the plates, keep spinning (even the one you didn't like)... it's how you get better at this...
 

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PS: I had a date on Sunday with another plate that was absolutely amazing, loved my style and was definitely 1000000000 times better. Definite connection there after laying down the foundation of what has become me Post-DJ Bible.
Go for this girl, man! "Wtf" a girl complaining on your style? Definitely not a girl I would want to go out with...
 

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Kailex said:
I basically met a girl online and we went out on a date not even a week after. Very pretty and cute girl, with a sweet appearance... but man, she went off on the way I dressed and stated I had overdressed just a little and that she didn't like my shoes.

Man screw her lol seriously!!! I would have just turned around looked her up and down and been like..."This coming from you? Oh the irony" Even if she looked sexy as hell:) or be like "Whatever I'm almost awesome that's all that matters"

We went bowling and I thought I was just fine. Overdressed? No. Not the best shoes I've ever had, maybe. But out of the 2 hours we spent, she spent at least 1 cracking jokes. I tried to be a champ about it at first but it eventually wore on me.

You should have busted her chops good to like I mentioned !!!, letting **** like this not phase you and letting her know you think it's hilarious is your best weapon!!

Something so NOT sexy about a woman ragging on a man based on their level of insecurity.

Saddest part was that the date ended with the most awkard kiss on the cheek and hug ever.
So I figure, we're never talking again, right?

Well, yesterday, she viewed my profile and today I had this email waiting for me:

"This is kinda late, but I just wanted to thank you for the bowling game Saturday night; and the "drink"...lol. I had fun - hope I didn't bore you too much


Have a good day!"



Okay, so why reach out to me like that?

Pretty much saying "I had an ok time, it was kind of boring wish you would have been a bigger man and shown me some more fun excitement/escalation, but I'm still open for you to give it another go" :)

Is this just a thank you but move on?

Nope, well not IMO

The date was Saturday and this email is on now Tuesday. I haven't even texted her.

PS: I had a date on Sunday with another plate that was absolutely amazing, loved my style and was definitely 1000000000 times better. Definite connection there after laying down the foundation of what has become me Post-DJ Bible.
keep spinning that other plate it will give you nice boosts in confidence especially when you go out with that other chic or others. Yet I'd stick with your 2nd choice :p and take the other one out once a while just for some fun and to get more experience, sharpen your escalation skills what not....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't like the way this girl is talking about you, man. She sounds lame. Drop her. I bet if you texted her first, she wouldn't have responded at all.

Since you didn't contact her, she's getting insecure and wants to reach out to you first.
 
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