"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wtf?

ariet

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Thers this girl
keeps confusing me

Her: i havent seen this movie yet blah blah
probly gonna go watch it alone

me: (she like asking for me to ask her) so i ask her
Her: says no (not in a straight way but yeah)

I run a chess club at school (dont jump to conclusions)
Theres couple of yr 11s(juniours coming in)
she says i wish someone could teach me chess
and asks me when it is and which room?

Then she says shes not gonna go wtF????

she keeps doing stuff like that? (initiates kino and convos most of the time thou) CONFUSIING
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hughman

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Attention-***** or retardedly shy. Or maybe you are just being really chumpish (Ie You're saying 'Would you let me take you to the movie?' rather than. 'I'm going to the movies. Feel free to tag along.)'
 

ariet

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IM not being chumpish cos yeah i know that dont ask just kind order them thing
always use it and it works

i said something like "lets go movies this week" something like that


im thinking so far attention-****
she offers and declines what a weirdo
 

It's-Me

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She's most likely playing games with you. You can either play games with her back just to screw with her or tell her to stop playing games.

If you want to play games with her, you can do something like this:

ariet said:
she says i wish someone could teach me chess
and asks me when it is and which room?
You could say something like I'm to busy to teach you or what's in for me if I teach you? Something like that to tease her :p
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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jeffthechef

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why let any girl confuse you?

here's a little message for everyone on the hs forum

IF AT ANY POINT, YOU FIND YOURSELF CONFUSED ABOUT A GIRL, ANALYZING ANYTHING RELATING TO HER, OR SIMPLY FRUSTRATED OVER A GIRL...YOU HAVE SEPARATED THE EXPERIENCE-R FROM THE EXPERIENCE. AND GIRLS BECOME FUTILE PUZZLES/RIDDLES/MAZES RATHER THAN FUN AND SEXY.

too many guys do this...they stop living and enjoying the ladies and begin to think about living...when bruce lee taught his students how to do a certain move..he told them never to think about it..but to just do..same goes with pretty much all sports..

here's how you should be thinking about this girl and all girls

Ok, she doesn't want to go to the movies..i'll just go with another girl on my LONG (minimum of 3, which is quite little so i would suggest more, but there are small schools and other outside factors)..list of girls...

don't make every interaction/approach/outing close/number close a big deal...ALL INTERACTIONS ARE ONLY AS MAJOR AS YOU ALLOW THEM TO BE...if you can think of any of those things as regular, they will become minor..and you will be able to do it as much as you want..and get a long list of girls who want to have fun with you..and so on

don't live in society's reality..create your own..in today's society..MOST, not all, guys are afraid to live the way they want to...They see that when one guy is rejected, everyone finds out and that guy loses all his self-esteem..then he himself becomes fearful of rejection..when he sees that most guys don't kino enough or at all..he feels as though it's the norm and that he thus must not kino..so **** SOCIETY'S REALITY..if you live in it, you'll become a follower of cliques and trends..you will not embark on any of your own endeavors because you're too busy following..

In the end, don't think about that girl...suggest you guys hang out..she says no again..then oh well. Don't be confused/angry/etc...Have fun:yes:
 
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