You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Eh...Don't fight fire with fire. Make her explode before you explode. This way you don't look like a roid raged *******. I enjoy pissing people off by being overly nice when I know they hate me. C & F works really well on these people as do neg hits. Everyone has their ways of thinking. My way has worked numerous times and I stick to what works for me.Originally posted by bluelemond
And look like a chump who gets pushed around? Making it look like you don't care shows that she is soooooo powerful/popular for your that you act just like all the other AFCs in this situation.
I'm going to have to agree (slightly) with Black_Italian....I mean BackToTheMack. Grab one of her books and then say that you burned it. If she'll either crack and say she didn't burn your book, OR she'll get mad. In the second situation go ahead and burn it because she actually did burn YOUR book and she deserves the punishment. Think about what an AFC would do? He'd be to afraid to go and grab her book to burn.
(looks at post above yours)Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
hmmm........now when i got my head calm and clear, i think im she didn't burn it after all, here's how i know
the history between me and the girl im going after is that it's quite complicated, the b probably wouldn't burn it coz she knows im her best friend's friend and there used to be attractions between us, and there's still this special relationship between us two
the girl is probably mad that there's a time period when i was mean and cold to her, so she didn't tell me that her friend didn't burn it in fact and go along with her friend's story to make me mad
so the book is fine, but now i need ways to get my book back, im thinking of stealing her textbook coz i know where her locker is and ask for a trade
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.