WTF to do in this bs situation

[jigga23]

I will make this as short as possible. I need some input ASAP. Help me out here fellas. Real quick all of this occured after she asked me to move in her house with her and I said ok.

-My gf of 8 months and I are having trouble right now and I feel so vulnerable right now.

-Got into an agrument about her being selfish when I needed her there for me (very rare occurence). Always there for her.

-Turned into her saying out of the clear blue sky she wants space which I give to her about 98% of the time, and doesnt want anything serious but still wants a relationship (BF GF) whatever that fu@* that whole thing means.

-She has told me about her ex before and the situation that led them to their break up. Same situation is occuring her. Telling me she needs space, becoming very selfish always insisting she wants to be alone even before I say anything. Her ex obviously smothered the sh*t out of her because she brought up this out of the blue just like with me. But I know not to smother her like crazy as he did.

-I know everybody needs space which is totally fine with me. I know she wants to be left alone right now but its kind of hard for me.

-According to her she says she wants to continue the relationship and will workat it but she might just be saying that so I wont get pissed or maybe she really means it.

-As of right now she wants to chill out I guess. I think we are still together. But the thing is she wants to have space.

-How should I handle this situation? Only answer her calls and not call her? or Just not pick up the phone period for a little bit? Ignore her totally for a week? Just tell her no for a while if she wants to hang out. I dont want to f up this relationship and lose it, put too much time and effort into it already and overall she is a great girl.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

ATTENTION: This is by no means meaning to be harsh...

THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP!!

No, no, no kid. The relationship did not end when she said she needed space, the relationship ended before it even started.

You like her. You want her. You really like her. God damn it, you fvckin want that *****! She knows that.......

You must evolve into a don juan kid. Only don juans are able to pick the girls they want, and not have to go through the **** you went through. You are still and AFC. You must read the rules on what it takes to be a don juan (read my thread The Truth: The End), then make it natural and live that lifestyle. This is not about rules it is about a lifestyle.

This is a girl you fvck and leave. You dont call somebody your girl -friend, unless she is your girl and your friend.

Your girl will fvck you. Your girlfriend will be there and support you and almost worship you to some degree.

But you probably dont understand what I am saying, because you are not a don juan. Evolve into one, it does not take that long. But you must make it a lifestyle and become one, not just do what they do. Imitation is suicide.

As for this relationship, excuse me while I clear my throat, okay...

NEXXXXXXXXXXXXXTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your mind is not clear kid!!

Take some crack cocaine and maybe it will become clear because your natural state of mind is going to destroy you!!!

Get the hell out of the matrix before this agent hor extinguishes you!!

She is screwing other dudes -- this is the only reason a woman wants "space",

If she wants "space" tell this ho to be an Astronaut!!!

Run and run fast without looking back!!!!

 

[JackPrescott]

Anytime a woman "wants space" it means she wants space in her life for other men than yourself.

 

[Desdinova]

Let's break this 5hit down...

-Got into an agrument about her being selfish when I needed her there for me (very rare occurence). Always there for her.

A real man doesn't NEED his woman. He enjoys spending time with her, but doesn't rely on her to help solve his problems, to be his emotional tampon, or be a man's support system. That's when you get your buddies to help you out. What you've done and are continuing to do is relay the message that you are NEEDY.

-Turned into her saying out of the clear blue sky she wants space which I give to her about 98% of the time, and doesnt want anything serious but still wants a relationship (BF GF) whatever that fu@* that whole thing means.

She recieved the message that you're NEEDY so she's pulling away. She wants a man, not a whiny little b1tch. Her friends are whiny little b1tches, and you're displaying the same behavior as them. You're moving yourself into the friend zone.

Her ex obviously smothered the sh*t out of her because she brought up this out of the blue just like with me. But I know not to smother her like crazy as he did.

You're "smothering" her by being NEEDY, so you're no better.

-I know everybody needs space which is totally fine with me. I know she wants to be left alone right now but its kind of hard for me.

Man's definition of "space": Spending time on your own, doing your own things.
Woman's definition of "space": Get the fvck away from me until you start acting like a man!

-According to her she says she wants to continue the relationship and will workat it but she might just be saying that so I wont get pissed or maybe she really means it.

Again, she wants you to come back when you start acting like a man. She likes all your other qualities, but she doesn't want to be fvcking one of her friends.

-How should I handle this situation? Only answer her calls and not call her?

Leave the ball in her court and let her have her "space". Let her make the first phone call. By then, she'll realize that you're not being needy by relying on her existance in your life. Within this time, become the man that she wants. Flirt with other women and have some fun.

 

[Qmanchoo]

-My gf of 8 months and I are having trouble right now and I feel so vulnerable right now.

-Got into an agrument about her being selfish when I needed her there for me (very rare occurence). Always there for her.

The first two.....

-Turned into her saying out of the clear blue sky she wants space which I give to her about 98% of the time, and doesnt want anything serious but still wants a relationship (BF GF) whatever that fu@* that whole thing means.

-She has told me about her ex before and the situation that led them to their break up. Same situation is occuring her. Telling me she needs space, becoming very selfish always insisting she wants to be alone even before I say anything. Her ex obviously smothered the sh*t out of her because she brought up this out of the blue just like with me. But I know not to smother her like crazy as he did.

Caused these two. It's ok to have an arguemnt about her being selfish if you're doing it in a "I don't NEED you to be there for me, but your selfish ways are unappealing and you're better than that" however she doesn't sound like the kind of person that has selfless morals.

It's certinaly not ok to say you "need her to be there for you"

Weakness! Women want ROCKS, life is hard, men deal with everything head on and take all the punches, and keep on going! And if you're anything less your just not a strong man in her eyes. Sucks but that's the way it is from my experience.

 

[JackPrescott]

If this woman REALLY loved and wanted you, she'd WELCOME the smothering, this woman wants to get rid of you, bottom line.

 

[spider_007]

If you want to cut the crap and find out the truth, do this.

call her up and say; "look you want SPACE, but you still want the relationship....... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS SWEETHART. Eather you snap out of it, or quit wasting my time........

If she tells you "it's over" (gathering from above she most likely will), say; "well it's been lot of fun while it lasted, I hope you have a nice life, and I hope you find what you are looking for" CLICKKKK

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Remember guys, SHE asked him to move in!!!

She found another pimp and now has second thoughts about being committed to one pimp!!!

 

[Qmanchoo]

JackPrescott That's the cold hard truth.

 

[PRMoon]

If she's asking for space though you're already done for. That's why you should work a relationship from the outside in, not the other way around. Start detachted and then as things progress and she wants you get closer with her, gauge interest and get closer to fit YOUR perspective, not hers. Girls are crazy they don't know what they want so it's up to you to take charge and do things your way.

 

[aix237]

Desdinova

Desdinova- really appreciate your help it sounds like I need to do that. How should I act when she calls and what should be said? What if she asks me to hang out with her?