"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WTF Should I do ?!

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Hello,

Well, I'll do my best to explain the problem properly...
I have a girlfriend since June, everything goes well we love each over very much,
BUT I met a girl two or three weeks ago, actually I didn't really met her but, as I walked in the corridors, I turned my head and saw her and this sight was the most beautiful, strong, intense sight I ever had. It was woah I don't find the words to describe it, and we looked at each other for about 5-10 seconds, then I had this sensation you know when you look at a girl you love very much (but I don't even know her name !), and I thought about it all the day but it passed and this Monday, I saw her again in the street and it was even a stronger sight, I'm ****ing crazy about her eyes, never seen such eyes before !
And I thought about it all the week she haunts me, I'd like to talk to her before the holidays but don't know what to say to her and how to approach her, so I wanted to know what you'd do if you were me ;)

Thanks, and sorry if there are mistakes English is not my native language ;)

Oh forgot, she's one year older ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you have 2 choices... approach her like shes just another girl and do her up... or forget about her... and this oneitus stuff has to go or youll just be messin up your game... all girls are the same and annoying, this one is no different... now show her how a DJ rolls bro... good luck
 

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Talk to her, get her name and number, and holler at her.

She can at least be your friend, if nothing else.
 

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Okay, thanks but how do I approach her ?
Cause I can talk with her and have a conversation but the problem is How can I approach her ?
Help me please ^^'

Thanks for your replies
 

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I may ask you;
Is it really worth it since you already have a girl? Is it really worth it loosing everything you have now?

Aller, fait moi plaisir... Ne fait pas de conneries. C'est tes hormones qui jouent la.. Pose toi vraiment la question.. Et n'ecoute pas les autres qui te disent d'essayer avec d'autre filles... Je te promet que ca ne vaut pas la peine!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I asked me this a billion time this week trust me. I don't know if it 's really worth it but I know there's something special "entre nous"...

Tu sais c'est pas forcé que je sorte avec, je veux juste la connaitre mais si vraiment elle est mieux je sais pas, mais y'a quelque chose de spécial qui passe entre nous j'ai jamais ressenti un tel truc avec une fille et jveux la connaitre, quels conseils tu peux me donner pour "the approach" ?

Thanks ;)
 

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I think both find each others attracted and thats the main problem. Because its only physical anyway. You should talk with your girlfriend about that, maybe there is something missing in your realitionship. Do not make mistakes because you find another girl attractive. Of course no one can, under no circonstances, take from you feelings towards other girls, and i mean physical of course.But since you're in a realitionship, you have to set boundaries... That's the way it is i guess... You just have to realise thats not worth it...

So here there facts...Its your call man...

Tell me what your think...
 

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prolonged eye contact can give the feeling of love.

I cant remember where i read it but some guy tested it at a strip club and other places.

The guy lookied into her eyes during a lapdance the whole time and he felt in love with her.
Summat to do with chemicals.

Also, if you make friends with her, you can meet her hot friends later. :D
 

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I think both find each others attracted and thats the main problem. Because its only physical anyway. You should talk with your girlfriend about that, maybe there is something missing in your realitionship. Do not make mistakes because you find another girl attractive. Of course no one can, under no circonstances, take from you feelings towards other girls, and i mean physical of course.But since you're in a realitionship, you have to set boundaries... That's the way it is i guess... You just have to realise thats not worth it...
Yeah but my girlfriend is ultra-ultra-ultra-jealous, I'd like to talk about it to her but if I do she'll break up...
I just wanted to talk to the girl for being clear in my thoughts, just a conversation like I'd do with the other girls, however not at all cause there's something though maybe it's all physical/chemical but I just want to know her and maybe I'll also love her inner part, and I will see at this time.
I know what I do Zerocool, thanks for worry about me ;)

prolonged eye contact can give the feeling of love.

I cant remember where i read it but some guy tested it at a strip club and other places.

The guy lookied into her eyes during a lapdance the whole time and he felt in love with her.
Summat to do with chemicals.
So, it's probably what happened to me !
About your story, did the girl fell in love with him too, or was it only him, or you don't know ^^'

I ask one more time, how can I approach her please ^^'

Thanks for answers
 
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