WTF just happend!?

[migz]

Aight here goes my story...I meet up with this chick that went to my high school that I really never talk to but she was in most of my classes. Back then (in high school days) my friend was in love with this girl. So I figured she would have a b/f or some sh*t and I didnt make an effort. I was kind of like "ehh this girl is just a friend and we propably have nothing in common". So all we pretty much did was just talk. She normally would talk about her ex b/f and the guys she would date and I tried my best to give her some advise. To make things short, she was feeling down so I took her to get a drink...she was home all alone in her roomates house she asks me to come in and there was the bed and you know what happend :woo:...She confeced to me that she wanted a relationship with me...I told her I had to think about it. 2 days later I stop speaking to her, and dont get me wrong this was really cute, but there was no interest for me. Now this isnt the first time this has happend to me. I meet my ex this way.

So now I am really confuced...when I give all of my effort to get a girl that I am interested in all things go really bad...and when I dont even try just take the girl as a friend, she falls all in love with me. Any one agree with me or is it just me?

 

[mpimpin]

The basis of this is the fact that when you are just pursuing friendship You dont' give a **** if she's romantically interested in you. So perhaps you are less nervous, less AFC, and you are seen as more of a challenge. Just adopt the same mindset when you find a girl that you are interested in and are pursuing. Just a thought. :rockon:

 

[far from average]

So now I am really confuced...when I give all of my effort to get a girl that I am interested in all things go really bad...and when I dont even try just take the girl as a friend, she falls all in love with me. Any one agree with me or is it just me?

I'll answer your question with a question:

Vicomte de Valmont: Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?

From the movie Dangerous Liasons

Now, consider that in light of this:

.She confeced to me that she wanted a relationship with me...I told her I had to think about it. 2 days later I stop speaking to her, and dont get me wrong this was really cute, but there was no interest for me. Now this isnt the first time this has happend to me. I meet my ex this way.