WTF is wrong with me - very frustrated

[AllAction]

This post may seem very braggish or weird but it makes me feel better to share this rather than bottle it up inside.

Basically, I'm the kinda guy that can get almost any hb7 I want without really trying at all. I have worked VERY hard, have a good education, good job, I have worked out hard for the last 6+ years, good game + personality, great friends, etc. I have been with quite a few hb8's and only very few hb9's. My problem is, I can't get myself to give a hb8 or lower enough time to see if I really like her personality or not. Like I'll talk to them until I hook up with them, and 90% of the time after I hook up with them I lose all interest in them... like I only want to booty call them.

Now this may seem like I'm bragging, I'm full of ****, or you guys may think "wtf how is this a problem? thats great" but it's not at all. I find myself alone girlwise a lot of the time and now it's really starting to get to me as I get older and all my friends have GF's and a few are starting to get ****ing married... my friend's and their gf's are like, why dont you have a gf? (in a way thats saying i can get so many girls but I'm always single)

Also - when I finally even SEE a hb9+ I approach, if I get rejected I don't care at all, but if she seems interested in me (gives me her number and we talk and go out) then nothing happens after that (no 2nd date or it just fizzels out) I get really bummed out b/c I'm usually like "finally, here's a girl I can date/make my GF" and when it doesn't work out it bums me out wayyyyyyy more than it should.

I know this sounds superficial but I want the complete package, and know I can get it, but they are so rare out there that even finding one to approach is difficult let alone picking them up and having it work out.

I also just read an article in Men's Health about guys who were amazing socially, looked great, but were 40yrs+ and never married and are always dating new women... I don't want to be that guy at all. I just want a hb9+ (a legit one... I have very high standards) with a great personality but I'm starting to realize that is sooo rare that I might have to drop my standards and start giving the HB7's a shot.... I have NEVER been one to drop my standards (only when really drunk) so in doing so I think I'd be admitting defeat or whatever and that just ****ing depresses me... Like in my mind I have the vision of what my life will be like, and all the other areas in my life are rapidly going that way except for with girls which is a huge deal for me

I realize this sounds like I'm superficial in that I evaluate looks first then if they pass that I look at their personality... but I can attract a lot of hb8+'s and some hb9+'s but I can't get that far with the hb9's... and these are all rare occassions b/c I rarely see girls I would consider a hb9 or hb8.5 so don't think I'm talking to a ton of these girls

sorry for the rant but talking with you guys really helps out

thx for anyone who read that

 

[prairiedog24]

Well, coming from a guy who has high standards too, (somewhat hypocritical given my pathetic looks) I'd say to be careful not to throw too much in on beauty. Yes you should be attracted, but given you sound like you're a bit older they only have a few years @ HB9 anyway. Better to start digging into some more serious aspects of a relationship than a perfectly symmetrical body.

Maybe try to meet some girls you wouldn't normally be interested in and see how it pans out. Check out a church, or a charity or something. Somewhere where the ones who don't bar hop hang out. Worth a shot.

But, I'm hardly a DJ, way to conservative for that, so take that with a grain of salt.

 

[AllAction]

Well, coming from a guy who has high standards too, (somewhat hypocritical given my pathetic looks) I'd say to be careful not to throw too much in on beauty. Yes you should be attracted, but given you sound like you're a bit older they only have a few years @ HB9 anyway. Better to start digging into some more serious aspects of a relationship than a perfectly symmetrical body.

Maybe try to meet some girls you wouldn't normally be interested in and see how it pans out. Check out a church, or a charity or something. Somewhere where the ones who don't bar hop hang out. Worth a shot.

But, I'm hardly a DJ, way to conservative for that, so take that with a grain of salt.

thx for the reply

Yea - it's just that I can get those really good looking girls even though I rarely see them (not saying I always do at all, but just that I have a pretty decent shot to at least go out with them once), but having everything match up (personality, etc) then having them like me back... it's just like the chances of me having that happen is so ****ing small b.c let's be honest, there are very very few girls like that out there. It's kind of like that saying "ignorance is bliss" like I wish i never even knew about those girls or had any like it b/c now I have to have something as good or better than that and I can't settle...

I'm 25 yrs old btw and never thought it would turn out like this. I've gone out and been with a decent amount of girls, and always thought I would end up finding a great one and make her a serious GF or wife... but I haven't had anything like that in the past 3 years.

I'm usually really busy and can't PU b/c of that but I'm thinking I need to make time and do some serious day game and just start doing PU 24/7... like if I see a cute girl at the grocery store (so ****ing rare lol) just go for it

Ugh - I think I'm just getting older and starting to really worry about being 30+ yrs old with no girl and having all my friends move/stop hanging out b/c of their girls. I'm starting to read/hear about guys like this more and more (maybe b/c I'm actually paying attn to that kind of stuff now that I'm older and it's always been the same amt of guys like that... duno) and I do NOT want that for myself at all

 

[Prodigy746]

I am 22 but i kinda feel your pain. I have gotten coupla good looking girls numbers but have been disappointed with their personality. Most good looking girls HB9-10 are used to getting lot of attention. They are used to guys doing all the work for them and kissing their ass. They are spoiled and lets face it, they have a chance to choose any guy they want so cheating is a big possibility. Its a headache keeping their IL high and its not ever worth it. They dont bring anything to the table and you really cant hold a descant educated conversation with them.

Right now i put personality first and looks second. Now i will not go out with a whale but i will give hb 7-8s a chance. Remember looks fade...they are fun for few weeks maybe even months but after that its blah. Ever heard of a saying "No matter how good she looks , someone out there is tired of ****ing her".

 

[DonJuan11]

- I'm the kinda guy that can get almost any hb7 I want without really trying at all.
- I can't get myself to give a hb8 or lower enough time to see if I really like her personality or not.
- I find myself alone girlwise
- When I finally even SEE a hb9+ I approach, then nothing happens after that (no 2nd date or it just fizzels out)
- I evaluate looks first then if they pass that I look at their personality
- I can't get that far with the hb9's...

Perhaps the problem is not with the girls, perhaps its with you. You can't be doing everything right with a hb9 and have her not call you after the second date.

 

[MisterMcGee]

hot girls who do lame things become VERY unattractive, moreso because they're deceivingly cute.

 

[vagrant]

The only reason I see why you can't be with an HB9 is because you are not on their level. What I mean by this is that the way you think about these HB9 is affecting you. You don't have to lower your standards, you just need to be at the level where getting an HB9 becomes natural. Maybe workout your body to the point where HB9 just can't get enough and wants to be your girl.

 

[AllAction]

I am 22 but i kinda feel your pain. I have gotten coupla good looking girls numbers but have been disappointed with their personality. Most good looking girls HB9-10 are used to getting lot of attention. They are used to guys doing all the work for them and kissing their ass. They are spoiled and lets face it, they have a chance to choose any guy they want so cheating is a big possibility. Its a headache keeping their IL high and its not ever worth it. They dont bring anything to the table and you really cant hold a descant educated conversation with them.

Right now i put personality first and looks second. Now i will not go out with a whale but i will give hb 7-8s a chance. Remember looks fade...they are fun for few weeks maybe even months but after that its blah. Ever heard of a saying "No matter how good she looks , someone out there is tired of ****ing her".

I've noticed that too with a lot of HB9+'s in that they think they are the **** so they rarely have anything else going for them... but I have met and dated a few that did have a good personality + job + edu but things didn't work out forever reason, but finding girls like that is so ****ing rare... I mean I might meet 1 girl like that ever 6 months

I agree about looks fading... I think a lot of it has to do with me being superfically with the looks firs then the personality... it's just so hard for me to do that

 

[mikel]

For real, there is no such thing as finding the complete package. You just have to wait, because really there are alot of girls that are compatiable with you, and you could end up marrying and be happy with; but not like the one your talking about.

But the ones that were MADE for you, they dont really get found. You just have to wait for it. Looking for it, will lead you down alot of bad roads. Cause you will start wanting it to happen so bad, you'll see girls for something there not, you'll see them for that complete package. When there the farthest thing from it. It might be hard to understand, but trust me. What I tell you is the truth.

Wait on her, but dont stop doing what your doing. She'll just fall in your lap one day. Thats the only way it can happen.

 

[AllAction]

Perhaps the problem is not with the girls, perhaps its with you. You can't be doing everything right with a hb9 and have her not call you after the second date.

not saying I'm doing everything right with them... just saying I can get hb7's and quite a decent amount of hb8+'s but the hb9+'s are hard for me b/c i can hardly find any to even practice/approach on

 

[AllAction]

The only reason I see why you can't be with an HB9 is because you are not on their level. What I mean by this is that the way you think about these HB9 is affecting you. You don't have to lower your standards, you just need to be at the level where getting an HB9 becomes natural. Maybe workout your body to the point where HB9 just can't get enough and wants to be your girl.

could be very true. I have a lot of my **** together but not 100% of it so when I find the girl I think is the complete package... I'm not on her level right now. I'm still working hard to do that (not for her, for me) but I'm just worried that what if I do reach that point and I still don't find a girl like that... ugh now I'm just whining lol

 

[AllAction]

For real, there is no such thing as finding the complete package. You just have to wait, because really there are alot of girls that are compatiable with you, and you could end up marrying and be happy with; but not like the one your talking about.

But the ones that were MADE for you, they dont really get found. You just have to wait for it. Looking for it, will lead you down alot of bad roads. Cause you will start wanting it to happen so bad, you'll see girls for something there not, you'll see them for that complete package. When there the farthest thing from it. It might be hard to understand, but trust me. What I tell you is the truth.

Wait on her, but dont stop doing what your doing. She'll just fall in your lap one day. Thats the only way it can happen.

This is why I post here. Lots of good feedback in this thread guys, but this post really hits home for me. I intended to keep doing my thing, progressing in all areas of life, keep going out and meeting/getting to know new girls but was just getting worried b/c I've been doing exactly that for a long time now and everything is going great except for the girl situation (in that I haven't found one i really really like for a long time)

Just recently I did exactly what you said I'd do. I met a hb9.5, had her interested in me, she didn't really offer anything but her looks now that I look back on it and I made her into some sort of "amazing" girl that I must make my gf when I hardly knew her LOL! Now if I had a few other hb9+'s to talk to at the time, I wouldn't have cared at all about losing her, but I didn't so I kinda had a small amt of oneitis for her. Very good post man!

Curious, has it happened for you yet? I truly hope it has!

 

[slaog]

Having high standards is a good thing but also remember that nobody is perfect.


You know you want a HB9 but do you know what else you're loking for? All I heard is HB9 and nothing else. Write down some of the qualities that you're looking for. It's important for you to be clear about that. If you have 10 things you're looking for and a HB8 has the 9 other things then she'd be worth your time.


You need to be clear about what you want because if it's not clear in your mind you won't see it when its right in front of you.


Do you know what other qualities you're looking for?

 

[AllAction]

Having high standards is a good thing but also remember that nobody is perfect.


You know you want a HB9 but do you know what else you're loking for? All I heard is HB9 and nothing else. Write down some of the qualities that you're looking for. It's important for you to be clear about that. If you have 10 things you're looking for and a HB8 has the 9 other things then she'd be worth your time.


You need to be clear about what you want because if it's not clear in your mind you won't see it when its right in front of you.


Do you know what other qualities you're looking for?

I think I know. Looks has always been my 1st test for a girl then personality, intelligence, etc.

Something funny happened to me after I made this thread. The thread, was of course inspired by a hb9 that was playing hard to get and giving me mixed signals. I built her up in my head then worried about her wayyyy more than I should have b/c she was the best girl I've come across in a long time (months). Ended up going out with her in a big group of people and #closed her friend who is a 9.5 and seems to have a really good personality. But just to point it out, if I didn't go out with the group of girls the hb9 was in, there would have been no other targets to approach (tons of 7.5's but I'm over just hooking up with random girls)

One things for sure, it's going to be interesting to see how this scenario plays out LOL

 

[Analyzeit]

I think the one fact that came from there is that yes, they are rare. Super rare in fact there probably/Almost extinct. You won't find the perfect one, because it's true no one is perfect there's always something wrong with them whether it's there drinking/drugs habit to there Mother in Law or the fact that they have just got 1 to many guys numbers on her phone, or some strange facebook comments.

I like what slaog said. Know exactly what you want, This is obviously a lot harder then it is. You'll write it all down then go sit down and you'll just change your mind. Just if you don't know what you really want then how are you going to know when you've found it?