"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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wtf is up w/ this chic

l23

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Here we go,
I met this chic like a month ago, very cute, got her number, we met up later, made out but no f-close yet. She shows interest and all by asking me 2 hang out on week ends. She has asked me 3 times so far, and cancels at the last minute. I talked to her on the phone yesterday, and she asked me if I wanted 2 chill tonight and I said OK. So she just txted me telling me that she can't anymore cuz she's in Albany dropping some1 off and sh1t like that. So that makes it the 4th time. I dont understand wats going on. If her interest levels are dropping, why does she even bother asking me 2 hang out and all that.
HELP GUYS
thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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WalkingStick

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Every time she's asked, you've been available and willing to go.

Make yourself less available. Find other things to do.
 

rtb227

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tell her you're tired of it and that you guys should make definitive plans. If she says yes, you'll get what you've wanted and finally go out with her. If she says no, you save yourself time and energy. Once you do this you'll show her you have a higher value and that might be what she wants. If she still says no, there's always other women.
 

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It is not worth your time to deal with that bs.

Your better than that.
 

Nutz

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Make yourself scarce and see if she starts contacting you. If she just leaves you hanging then she's lost interest.

And don't forget the 2 strikes rule.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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l23

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I feel u guys but it's not like I obsess about her or anything. I got other chix on the side and I have a good social life. I was just wondering how a chic can ask you out and cancel all the time. BTW, she sent me a txt not too long ago saying "I will take u out 2 make up 4 it, and we gonna have awesome fun"
I didnt answer. So I'm just ignoring her for the moment and keep gaming other chics
 

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Some general tips about flaky behavior:
Don't be to available. Say "no" from time to time.
Make clear that it's ok for once, but you dont accept this behavior to be repeated. You invest in her by making the appointment and if she doesnt reciprocate by not flaking, you must respond. If not your value is lowered. She feels herself to be the prize. (But don't contra-flake.)
If she continues to do it, forget about her.
 
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