"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wtf is she trying 2 do........ Solutions

l23

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Hey guys,
I dont really have a prob w/ chics but some things just throw me off sometimes.
So I was at a party last time, when I was leaving w/ my boys, I spot this cute girl like hb7. She had a strong sex appeal n I could only picture her naked. So I just walked up 2 her n:
-Hey whats up
Her: Hey
Me: I'm l23
Her: I'm hb7 Nice 2 meet u (n said I have a nice name)
Me: Nice 2 meet u 2. Listen, I gotta leave now w/ my friends but u seem really interesting n I'd like 2 find out more about u. Give me ur number n I'll hit u up
Her: Sure

xchanged numbers, hug etc...

I called her up the next week end cuz my phone had problems. She was still responsive. n said she was taking a class in my school. (her school is in the same area as mine).

3 days later, I txt her 2 c wat class she was taking n asker 2 meet up when she comes over so we can get food or sthg...
She answers: "Hey I have a bf. I'm interested in being ur friend. I just wanted 2 let u know". I just answered "Relax sweetheart.Idk how fast u go but I barely know u so I'm not yet thinking about that". We finished the convo n we couldnt meet up when she comes cuz I have class at that time.

My prob is why she had to tell me about her bf when I just asked her a random question, n I took that as a sh1t test.

So guys give me ur insight about this

Thanx
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ZhaoYun

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There's not too much to say about it. She could tell you were trying to get with her and she threw you the BF card.

Girls give their numbers out all of the time. There's nothing special about getting a number. When you began to advance she let you know she's not interested.

Hope that helps
 

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Definitely a common sh!t test you'd have to learn to deal with.

You did a pretty good answer to that. I'd say continue with it and see where it goes. She may not have a boyfriend anyways.
 

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Sounds like she is trying to tell you she has a boyfriend.

Which probably really means she has a boyfriend. Especially if she said she still wanted to be friends with you. Girls think in advance -- If you guys did friendly stuff together, and her boyfriend comment was just a ruse, she understands that you would figure it out. Instead, she would have just said something about you not being her type or just having a rough break-up, or not being ready for a relationship, or something else.

Guess what though? Women cheat.

Give it some play, see how far you can get. Worst case scenario is that you have a new HB7 friend, who most likely has some cute single friends, and will raise your social proof + expand your social network.

Best case scenario is all of the above, plus you get your penis wet with a cute, albeit unfaithful woman.
 

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"That's all i wanted was just friends, I thought maybe you knew some girls that you could introduce me to." or something to that effect. Would pretty much mindfvck her if you sounded sincere in your delivery.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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For Zao:
Obviously she knew wat I wanted from the start cuz after it was a direct approach n she wud have given me the bf card from the start. $ the numbers, I completely agree cuz the numbers got that didnt lead anywhere r countless.
However, that might just be a sh1t test so I'll try 2 play the cards right n c where it goes from there.
If u have any other advices that'll help, Im waiting.
Thanx guys
 

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A lot of chicks don't immediately tell you they have a BF because it's really none of your business. Also, they don't say it in order to get attention. Women do like being approached by guys because it makes them feel good.

Most good women will let men know if they're taken once they've gotten their attention fix and sense we're trying to get into their pants. That doesn't necessarily mean they won't cheat either tho.

If you want to keep pursuing this without coming off as an A-hole that doesn't care whether or not she's taken, your best bet is to let her know you want to get to know her better without coming off as a friend (if that makes sense)

Keep initiating kino and being as smooth as you can, cross the line if you want but if she doesn't reciprocate it's time to move on. Then you can decide whether or not you want to be friends or not.
 

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Alright Zao I get ur point. All I wanna do is f her. I'll go 4 it, plus since she goes to an all girl school, chances r that she's in a long distance relationship (if she really has a bf)
 
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