The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thats just stupid.... If a girl invites you to a wine&cheese party you dont fvcking do that. Etiquette is important.Originally posted by Knicknack
it's for the high class. just bring a 12-pack and some tostitos.
this happens at every kind of party, not just wine and cheese parties.Originally posted by 00Kevin
ok let me warn you all about what a wine & cheese party is really about.
My ex gf had these little get togethers with her friends and their boyfriends. It is basically a fake attempt at a high class social gathering where girls show off their AFC boyfriends and then talk behind everyone’s back at a later date.
Don't go unless you are prepared to show her off to your friends. If you do go every word you say will be discussed at a later date between them all. I found these gatherings to be totally fake. Everyone is thinking one thing but saying another. Oh and don’t forget some girls like to make a judgment calls on you by listening to their friend’s opinions of you. Most girls that do this are a little bit feminist and like to read stupid magazines. So make sure you are damn good with your social etiquette and don’t forget to give neg hits to all her friends. It is basically a bull**** event.
My girl friend dragged me to a few of these and then expected me do to the same with all my friends. I was like what they hell are you talking about? We don’t have wine and cheese parties. We drink beer and then talk about snatch. She couldn’t understand that I just wasn’t ready to let her meet my friends or my parents.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.