WTF, Im really starting to think people hate me or something...

[TheInfamousCBear]

Has anyone ever felt like because you carry yourself a certian way, people try to do sh1t to you? Im 6'2, have a good build, carry myself well, and the last couple of jobs Ive had, it seems like for some reason, some people there dont like me cause of it...One job I had, I was a cashier and alot of the girls in the store liked me, and me and a couple other employees drawers were short, and there was no proof that we took the money, but I get fired and the other 2 people stay, even though policy says that if you are short you are fired...Then I had a job after that, when I started, some of the girls in the office were all up on me, and I could tell I was making some of the dudes in the office uneasy or something...Then 2 days later I get fired cause they say Im not doing the job fast enough, but I was still learning...But the thing is is that every job Ive had, the girls at the job are always all up on me...My mom even told me that if you intimidate people or make them jelous, they might try and fukk you over...Has sh1t like this happened to anyone else?

 

[Miroku]

It could be possible. You can try testing it by going out of your way to befriend the male population of your future offices, and when and if you succeed, start teasing them that they were jealous of you. You should be able to tell a lot by looking at their body language when you talk to them. Personally I have had to go out of my way to be nice to others so I don't have such a response from others at times too. It's tiring I admit, but sometimes it's called for if you're feeling that kind of vibe in the air.

If your own mom says you're intimidating, well hell you probably are. I'd ask her why, and a couple of people close to you. It should ultimately go down to a misperception of others who cast it without trying to know you (e.g., they think since you're tall and attractive, you look down on them because you're probably arrogant). Stupid I know, but a lot of these things stem from irrational emotional responses due to you triggering the insecurities of others for whatever reason (simply being yourself at times). But something like that you can work with by killing those with kindness, _then_ seducing the women around you. If you can identify what people are probably thinking of you, and act contradictory to that, you should have a better image/social proof. Again it won't be easy, let alone fair, but it seems that kind of action is what you need to do.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

I agree with what youre saying, but Im not gonna make friends with people I dont want to be friends with, only if they have useful connections...If I cant get anything out of it, Im not gonna bother...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
If I cant get anything out of it, Im not gonna bother...

How about avoiding your past situations such as getting fired? Doesn't that count for something?

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Doesn't that count for something?

Nah, cause both times it wasnt my fault, the situations were too shady...

 

[ketostix]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Has anyone ever felt like because you carry yourself a certian way, people try to do sh1t to you? Im 6'2, have a good build, carry myself well, and the last couple of jobs Ive had, it seems like for some reason, some people there dont like me cause of it...One job I had, I was a cashier and alot of the girls in the store liked me, and me and a couple other employees drawers were short, and there was no proof that we took the money, but I get fired and the other 2 people stay, even though policy says that if you are short you are fired...Then I had a job after that, when I started, some of the girls in the office were all up on me, and I could tell I was making some of the dudes in the office uneasy or something...Then 2 days later I get fired cause they say Im not doing the job fast enough, but I was still learning...But the thing is is that every job Ive had, the girls at the job are always all up on me...My mom even told me that if you intimidate people or make them jelous, they might try and fukk you over...Has sh1t like this happened to anyone else?

Yes I've experienced this same type of thing all my life. I know you said in a post further down that you don't want to be friendly with people you don't like, I feel the same way. But I think you have to pretend like you like these people for the purposes of appeasing their wrath and preventing them from preventing you from making a living. Yeah it sucks you have to kiss every a-holes a$$ just to make it. A lot of men act like jealous women nowadays.

 

[PRMoon]

First off your drawer should NEVER be short. You've always got to be about your paper man!

People will always be jelous of other people but it really shouldn't be an issue for you in the work place. Sounds like you're working in little rinky dink places where drama runs the joint. I recommedn getting a job bartending because if you're a hot bartender, the owner will look at you like gold and want to keep you around indefinately. You'll get raises, benifits, hell you might even be able to swing a 401k out of it!

Otherwise get a job for a large company and work in a cubical where your boyish charms won't wear thin on anyone.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Has anyone ever felt like because you carry yourself a certian way, people try to do sh1t to you? Im 6'2, have a good build, carry myself well, and the last couple of jobs Ive had, it seems like for some reason, some people there dont like me cause of it...One job I had, I was a cashier and alot of the girls in the store liked me, and me and a couple other employees drawers were short, and there was no proof that we took the money, but I get fired and the other 2 people stay, even though policy says that if you are short you are fired...Then I had a job after that, when I started, some of the girls in the office were all up on me, and I could tell I was making some of the dudes in the office uneasy or something...Then 2 days later I get fired cause they say Im not doing the job fast enough, but I was still learning...But the thing is is that every job Ive had, the girls at the job are always all up on me...My mom even told me that if you intimidate people or make them jelous, they might try and fukk you over...Has sh1t like this happened to anyone else?

It's the women gossiping and running there mouths.Never trust women,son.

Especialy if they like you and you don't return the favor.

That's why I just ignore most of them in school.I deal with the guys.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

But it's not that many guys that get jealous enough to get you fired,b.The most a hater will do is mumble sh!t as you walk by.

I don't know many men that will get that jealous of you.

It's the women...belive me.

You think you're being nice to the ladies but you're alienating one or two fat-ugly chics and a couple of gay niggas there at least.

These fat chics start gossiping on you,lying,spreading it to the people on top that they're cool with and that's your ass.

You're better off not being a boy toy unless you wanna deal with situations like this all the time.That's my advise,be one of the guys.

 

[Scought]

the opposite

I hear what you are saying, and I feel similar, but I get the opposite reaction. Nobody messes with me. If I'm in a job or at school (recently got that college degree) people will give me the benefit of the doubt, or dont try to pull things on me.

When I am out, bar, restraunt, etc., no one ever really has anything to say to me, no one tries to mess with me. Sometimes, I do get disrespected, but more often its people going out of their way to avoid a problem with me. Not really sure either why.

I am 6'2 205 and not a rugged looking guy at all, but i carry myself well, and the places I frequent, causing drama isnt what people are about, or are after.

Haven't really given you much help, but if you carry yourself like it doesnt matter what others believe, and you know what you are about, then most likely people wont have an issue with you.

Be social. I am still learning to be cool and cordial with people i dont like, or even respect. But, in the interest of everyone around, I try to be cool with everyone, and heed what they have to say, doesnt mean I agree or follow their advice. I used to not like someone and that was it, I could feel the tension. Now, i let it slide, and problems dont really occur unless they are unavoidable.

Just be straight with people, and try to make them feel important in their own way, and people will want to be for you, not against you. Its always empowering thinking you have a tough fellow you has got your back (in a non-threatening situation) so to speak. So if they feel like they are cool with you, then things will be fine.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
But it's not that many guys that get jealous enough to get you fired,b.The most a hater will do is mumble sh!t as you walk by.

I don't know many men that will get that jealous of you.

It's the women...belive me.

You think you're being nice to the ladies but you're alienating one or two fat-ugly chics and a couple of gay niggas there at least.

These fat chics start gossiping on you,lying,spreading it to the people on top that they're cool with and that's your ass.

You're better off not being a boy toy unless you wanna deal with situations like this all the time.That's my advise,be one of the guys.

WTF...You may be right, cause one girl liked me and she wanted to give me a ride home and I told her Id rather take the bus home cause she was busted, and then she went around saying I must be slow and she asked my friend was I slow and he told her no and stop saying sh1t...And there was this gay dude there and it seemed like he kept trying to get at me even though he knew I didnt go like that...

Im not the boy toy type though, Im more like the rugged Vin Diesel type, lol...

 

[Tha Realnezz]

^lol,for real.

LMAO if you ignore a chic that likes you..

You're either:

A.Slow.

B.Gay.

C.Corny.

That's female logic for you.

"Let me piss him off and embarass him so he can talk to me".



and then they wonder why we only want them for sex.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
I agree with what youre saying, but Im not gonna make friends with people I dont want to be friends with, only if they have useful connections...If I cant get anything out of it, Im not gonna bother...

With an attitude like that, it's no wonder they all hate you. If you aren't friendly to people because "it doesn't get you anything", you deserve to be fired.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
With an attitude like that, it's no wonder they all hate you. If you aren't friendly to people because "it doesn't get you anything", you deserve to be fired.

Lol, this guy...Sorry, I keep work what it is, I go to work, do my job, and collect my check...I dont go around trying to make friends, it isnt nesscessary...Now if people come to me and want to talk or whatever and I like talking to them its cool, but Im not going around searching for people, cause most people are fake anyway and my inner circle stays tight for a reason...

 

[Julian]

Quit working sh1t jobs and go entrepreneur style like me, C.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
Lol, this guy...Sorry, I keep work what it is, I go to work, do my job, and collect my check...I dont go around trying to make friends, it isnt nesscessary...Now if people come to me and want to talk or whatever and I like talking to them its cool, but Im not going around searching for people, cause most people are fake anyway and my inner circle stays tight for a reason...

It's called enjoying the job, dope. I say what's up to everyone at work, even if I'm not friends with them, cuz it's good to stay friendly with people. I have never once been fired. Coincidence? Erm, no. Stupid.

I'd second Julian's suggestion, because I'm doing the same thing as him, but you're obviously too stupid and anti-social to follow through with it.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
It's called enjoying the job, dope. I say what's up to everyone at work, even if I'm not friends with them, cuz it's good to stay friendly with people. I have never once been fired. Coincidence? Erm, no. Stupid.

I'd second Julian's suggestion, because I'm doing the same thing as him, but you're obviously too stupid and anti-social to follow through with it.

Look at this guy...I must of struck a nerve cause you gotta call me names now, lol...

 

[Reach]

Yeah, sounds like the nerves you hit at your last couple of jobs. If you act like that in real life then people will think you're a dicck. I don't think you're necessarily a dicck, I just think you annoy a lot of people without realising it.

The fact is all the guys want is for you to say "Hey, hows it going?" That's about it, if there's a pool table on the brake then play with them or talk to them about what you're planning to do on the weekend. Just be cool, you're closing a lot of doors on yourself if you assume that people don't have anything to offer you automatically.

I have this kind of problem on a different scale... I try to make freinds and take over too much, but if you take some interest in people they'll appreciate it.

 

[tristan22]

TheInfamousCBear

Although i agree with your logic and your point of view, sadly you won't get far in life without playing the game. You see, your story is almost parallel with mine both comparitively and outome wise. The more you try to be independent in the corporate world, the more alienated you will become.

Every business from Hollywood to McDonalds is all about using people to get ahead. Take famous actors for example; they put on a fake mask in front of the camera to increase their fan base and generate more fame and fortune. My point is, Play the game, use people, make money, and ***** and complain about them at home or to your friends.

I truely feel your frustrations. Being a good looking male is hit or miss; some will reap the benefits and ride the gravy train to the top, while others will hit every pot hole in the road.

LEARN TO USE PEOPLE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT!

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Lemme put the sword in the stone on this sh1t...Pay attention, some people need to hear this sh1t...

People want to say Im anti and I should play the game...Im the type of person that isnt all up in peoples faces all the time...If someone wants to talk to me, they can...The thing is, that if you put me in a workplace, for some reason people want to talk to me, men and women both, and thats cool...But if I make you uneasy or whatever, thats your problem, it isnt mine...I worked to hard and went through too much sh1t for me to feel confident to have some people try and bring me down cause they dont want to step their sh1t up, sorry...Fukk what they think...

Ever since I was a kid, lots of people loved me and alot hated, cause my personality was so good...People would see a little bummy looking broke fat kid and they would wonder why hes so intelligent and why hes so confident and they straight up hated, and they sh1tted on me to bring me down, and for one time it worked...It took me years to get that confidence back and my third eye as strong as it is now...Now I can see through most people and I can pick and choose who I can fukk with and who I wont...Thank God for blessing me with the best friends in the world for over 10+ years, Im not starving for friends, I got the best in my inner circle already...

And another thing, when you realize what you are worth and you know it and show it, people hate that sh1t...My mom always tell me never to put anyone on a pedistal, and that was my problem for a minute...Now that I dont do that sh1t anymore, people want to call me an ******* or whatever? Fukk that, handle your own cause I sure did...Youre talking to a kid who used to wear hand me down underwear and eat ramen noodles and hot dogs all day...People think that I should be on my knees compared to people with more money, fukk that sh1t, God made everyone the same, aint noone better than anyone else..

As far as playing the game, oh I play it...I got 3 people in the palm of my hand right now...I read these people like books and found out what makes them tick and I exploit it...Im getting free drinks and meals when I go out cause these people think you gotta buy friends, when all you gotta do is be real with people and you can be their friend...Im not gonna tell them how they should handle themselves...Oh and you better belive people love the sh1t outta me man, dont get it twisted...If someone doesnt want to be cool with me, I dont care, cause other people would...If a girl doesnt want to be with me, I dont care, cause another girl would...Im not starving for puss or other peoples approval...