"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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WTF, I look weird, i have a big body, but small arms.

The_Mole

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I also want to lose some body fat but if i do, i'll be a skinny bastard again. right now, i'm 5'9" 149-151 pounds. last year, before college, i was about same height (maybe grew 1/4 an inch), but only 135 pounds. I just turned 18 this june. this body fat is causing me too look a little like i have a big body, and small arms. what weight training or excercises should i do? and what should i do first? should i do curls first before losing weight? or do curls, and keep weight? because i DO NOT want to look like the skinnny mofo i was before.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cremasta

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You can lose fat and gain muscle at the same time, they aren't mutually exclusive.

Curls are great, but if you want to have decent looking arms, make sure you work your triceps well, they make up a larger percentage of your arm mass. If you neglect them it will be hard to get that solid look.
 

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Originally posted by Cremasta
You can lose fat and gain muscle at the same time, they aren't mutually exclusive.
you will only gain a negligible amount of muscle (usually less than 5-8 lbs.) and that usually only happens with newbie lifters. Once you have a couple of years under your belt, then that is no longer quite true.

Curls are great, but if you want to have decent looking arms, make sure you work your triceps well, they make up a larger percentage of your arm mass. If you neglect them it will be hard to get that solid look.
yes, triceps make up 70% of your upper arm mass.
 

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The_Mole,

You are a classic hardgainer just like myself. The bad news is it is going to take you about a year for each 10 pounds of lean body mass you want to gain. The good news is you can cut almost effortlessly.

For you and I, diet is far, far, far, (FAR!) more important than gym work. You will build muscle with your fork, not with a bar.

Eat right, lift hard with freeweights (machines suck!), never overtrain, be patient and stubborn. You'll get there.
 
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