"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WTF Happened?!

Jonblood

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This girl I've been talking to for a few weeks used to watch my dog and i'd flirt with her. Suddenly she started texting me more asking to see my dog more etc. We hung out a couple times and she was giving soo many ioi's. One night after she left the bar she came to my house drunk with her friend we hooked up and had a few texts the next day.
I've always been long to respond and not be responsive because i wanted to be "the catch" you know. So I that's how i did it for that whole period. Two days after we hooked up she texted me that I suck at texting and shes not going to text me anymore.
Its been different ever since then, now i feel like I'm chasing her f***in' afc sh**. She texted me today to hang out and now it seems as if she's flaking on me.
Can I ask her straight up if that was just a drunken hook up? What do I do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How did you react to her saying that you suck at sending texts? How long did you take to reply to her texts? Did you apologise to her for it?


See whats after happening is that you totally changed your behaviour when she gave out to you. You made her angry by making her wait for the texts but thats better then being too keen and sending them back straight away.


Never chase a woman!! If you start chasing they start running in the opposite direction so get a grip of yourself and man up.
 

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Hooked up with her and didnt text back until she texted you two days later?

She could be **** testing you now, but just text as much as you did before you guys hooked up to keep it feeling normal. Shes looking to you to figure out how to act.

And don't always be the one waiting for the text. Show at least some kind of interest in her, like text her once first for every few that she does first.
 

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She said that it sucked texting me when i reply once an hour. It's really not that bad, but once I read that she should always be the last person to text so I always end it short.
I told her Ill be more responsive and I have been...I've been texting her more maybe she likes being challenged a little. I'm going to man up and no contact. I'll hang if she wants to though :)
 

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Earlier today we talked about hanging out tonight. She just texted me saying, "SOrry i kidna forgot i had a date tongiht" Sh1t test? true lie whawt?!?!?!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She just sounds very needy to me. I mean think about it...if she's like this now, before your first date, imagine what she's going to be like down the road!

And if you guys are dating, she's gonna want to know where you are 24/7!

True it could of been a shyt test, and you definitely passed by not responding. But by her freakin out is a huge red flag. Sounds like a headcase.
 

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Sandow said:
She just sounds very needy to me. I mean think about it...if she's like this now, before your first date, imagine what she's going to be like down the road!

And if you guys are dating, she's gonna want to know where you are 24/7!

True it could of been a shyt test, and you definitely passed by not responding. But by her freakin out is a huge red flag. Sounds like a headcase.
I agree, I have reason to believe that this girl is going to cause you major problems in the future.

She's showing signs of red flags already.
 

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Jonblood said:
Earlier today we talked about hanging out tonight. She just texted me saying, "SOrry i kidna forgot i had a date tongiht" Sh1t test? true lie whawt?!?!?!

She complains that you never talk to you, then when you do talk and make plans, she flakes on you. Sounds like a attention hor to me. Tell her you found someone else to take care of your dog.
 

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She porbably doesnt have a date, but wants you to think she has. I think she is probably trying to figure out what you want, and will respond accordingly.
 
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