Help me out with this. I am a new rAFC going through boot camp. I went out tonight with some friends to have a good time and of course started talking to some girls, HB7, HB6, HB6. I zeroed in on HB7 and started up a convo. The initial 5-10 mins went great, but then I ran out of things to say. I could see her interest in me fade. Negative body language, would not look at me, etc. I stood there acting like a major AFC while she talked to her friends and my friends worked on her friends. The music was really load so it made convo really hard and being a dumba$$ without anything to say did not help. I occasionally tried to talk to her again and again, but it did not go so well. Finally, when I was about to head out I decided to go for the for the #close. I am going through boot camp and I am only on week 2, but I figured I would speed things up and get one rejection out of the way. So here is how that went:
ME(with good EC): I never got you name.
(I know big mistake I should have introduced myself in the begining)
HB7: It is blah blah with a big smile and holding the EC..
ME: I really enjoyed talking to you. Let me get your # so we can go out some time.
HB7: Ok, do you have a cellphone or something? She types the # and has trouble remembering her # so asks her friend what her number is. Friend gives number typed into phone. Good sign. At least it is not a fake #.
So I am shocked. Guys all night have been coming up to her and she seemed much more interested in them than me, but they never went for the close. (good for me)
Since I am still shocked that she even gave me the # I push to see if she is going to blow me off when I call.
ME: So you are not just busting my balls? When I call you we are going to go out right? I don't want to waste my time.
HB7(Clearly aggitated)Yeah, of course we can hang out.
So he is where I am at. Of course I am going to call her. I need some tips on what to say when I call. I figured I would call her Sunday afternoon and see if she can go out for drinks Monday night. (She is between jobs so she should be free.)
For my own record:
What I did right:
I talked to her (thanks to the DJ tips and my fellow bros advice)
I asked open ended questions.
I maintained good EC.
I used kino (loud music made this easier)
I talked to her friends.
I did not buy her or her friends a drink when they hinted about it. (not sure if this was good or not, but I got the # and saved $6. My chump friend bought them a round.)
I went for the #close.
What I did wrong:
I did not introduce myself in the beginning.
I ran out of things to say/ask and got nervous. (of course I thought of 100 of them on the drive home.)
I stayed in the area too long when there were gaps in the convo like an AFC dumba$$ while I tried to think of something else to say.
I made some lame jokes.
I did not approach anyone else.
ME(with good EC): I never got you name.
(I know big mistake I should have introduced myself in the begining)
HB7: It is blah blah with a big smile and holding the EC..
ME: I really enjoyed talking to you. Let me get your # so we can go out some time.
HB7: Ok, do you have a cellphone or something? She types the # and has trouble remembering her # so asks her friend what her number is. Friend gives number typed into phone. Good sign. At least it is not a fake #.
So I am shocked. Guys all night have been coming up to her and she seemed much more interested in them than me, but they never went for the close. (good for me)
Since I am still shocked that she even gave me the # I push to see if she is going to blow me off when I call.
ME: So you are not just busting my balls? When I call you we are going to go out right? I don't want to waste my time.
HB7(Clearly aggitated)Yeah, of course we can hang out.
So he is where I am at. Of course I am going to call her. I need some tips on what to say when I call. I figured I would call her Sunday afternoon and see if she can go out for drinks Monday night. (She is between jobs so she should be free.)
For my own record:
What I did right:
I talked to her (thanks to the DJ tips and my fellow bros advice)
I asked open ended questions.
I maintained good EC.
I used kino (loud music made this easier)
I talked to her friends.
I did not buy her or her friends a drink when they hinted about it. (not sure if this was good or not, but I got the # and saved $6. My chump friend bought them a round.)
I went for the #close.
What I did wrong:
I did not introduce myself in the beginning.
I ran out of things to say/ask and got nervous. (of course I thought of 100 of them on the drive home.)
I stayed in the area too long when there were gaps in the convo like an AFC dumba$$ while I tried to think of something else to say.
I made some lame jokes.
I did not approach anyone else.
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