wtf does this eman LTR

[tristanmon]

does any one know what this means. during a conversation with my LTR (a little drunken at the time) we were talking about a few issues that have come up. now im not a nice guy i know what im doing in a relationship but i seem to have stumbled across a problem. my aloofness and me doing what i want to do has caused a problem.

alot of our arguements are mainly about how she thinks i do not care, or im willing to walk away so easily blah blah. i interpreted that as a sh1t test so handled accordingly trying to convice her she was wrong but making her the prize in the relationship. this may be a mistake.

now in the conversation she said:

her "if i were in your shoes i would have left me buy now"
me "yeh? whys that" (shoked as to why she said it)
her "because you put up with so much sh1t from me"
me "still not following"
her "you never argue with me or tell me what you dont want me to do"
me "well you got common sense do you not"
her "yes but still you need to stop letting me walk all over you"
me "didnt know you were walking all over me"
me "but ok, im telling you to shut up now and get back to the party"

this got me thinking a little. now i do not believe she walks over me atall. i do not argue with her or tell her what or what not to do. I am my own man if she does something i dont like i will let her know about it but not tell her not to do it. if have my own worries and my own life so i dont need to try and controll some one elses so it may appear im very easy going. my attitude is if she does something majourly wrong eg cheat on me, the relationship is over no question. so other small details like if she can go out with her mates or what ever does not concern me.

heres the wierd part. because if im such a walk over, why does she ask permission for what ever she does that doesnt involve me and invite me along to it too. i can tell when she doesnt want me to be somewhere eg she wants to go watch a movie with ehr girl friends but she invites me any way. most of the time i decline as i know thats what she wants but occasionally i accept to show her that she cannont invite me to seem like she wants me there and expect me to say no. she is a university student, plays in sports teams so has little free time but makes all the effort to see me. she will blow of lectures to come see me or do something with me.

in my eyes she gives me mininal sh1t, doesnt withhold sex and does alot for me, way more than i do for her. the only thing that she does do is start fights because she thinks i dont care about her. now i believe this to be a sh1t test from her but its one if never experienced before, anythoughts on this guys?

 

[frivolousz21]

if she starts fights for your attention

it means she is insecure with believeing u care for her

 

[Alphathree]

her "yes but still you need to stop letting me walk all over you"

DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER

RELATIONSHIP WARNING SIGN

WOMAN HAVING MIXED FEELINGS

OPEN THE POD-BAY DOORS, HAL

Okay, that last one was just random.

She's gonna be screwing someone else in a month or two.

YOU need to set LIMITS even if they seem totally unnecessary. Never accept her behaviour as perfect.

You are THE MAN. You are never satisfied. Your approval is hard to get. You create her reality.

 

[flexion_]

Yes warning lights should be going off.

Sounds like she wants you to lead more. Does she make a lot of decisions for the both of you? Like when you go out? What you do? What you eat? Or when she asks lets go out for dinner do you say you don't care where?

 

[tristanmon]

yeah flexon you got it. my usualy responce is, yeh im not bothered. or i ask, what you wana do tonight.

i need to change that to. we doing this tonight etc?