wtf do you say to this

[Mintyfresh]

Really good looking chick i nexted keeps profusely apologizing for not returning my phone call last week.

I mean literally begging me to forgive her.

"please don't hate me"
"please forgive me"
"im a horrible person"
"its not that i didnt want to hang out with you this week, its just that i went to the city with family, so you must really hate me"

Honestly i can't think of a good way to respond to her apologizing and asking me if i hate her.

the AFC in me really just wants to say "don't worry about it, its not a big deal and i certainly don't hate you", but ive come to see that i deserve more respect than im used to giving myself

so... anyway WTF do you say to the "im sorry" and "do you hate me" lines?

 

[Big Eee Zee]

I'd check for other signals. If she's showing some interest in you now that you yanked the attention away from her, I'd reply real smooth-like. You know, "It's alright, maybe we can discuss it over coffee." or something, up the ante.



If she is just making sure her ego is kept fed by dozens of obedient drones (i.e. YOU) then blow her off.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I'd give her another chance on the condition that she misses you and not the attention and validation you used to give her.

 

[Mintyfresh]

Thanks for the compliment lol..

Problem with this girl wasn't that she was being an attention wh0re. It was her mixed signals. We'd fool around, then id call her and leave a message and she'd never get back to me. So i said fvck it and nexted her.

Now she seems genuinly interested, but i don't know...

 

[isotope]

i would just be honest
tell her that you were a little annoyed but that everyone gets one second chance.

ONE.

 

[PRMoon]

one word

Nothing

 

[Wubbman]

"Calm down. Its alright."

 

[TizZle]

Slowly let her in. She will feel a sense of accomplishment in her subconcious emotions.

I'm drunk right now and that's all i got to say.

 

[Climax]

Well here is an idea.... *G*

Her: "please don't hate me"
"please forgive me"
"im a horrible person"
"its not that i didnt want to hang out with you this week, its just that i went to the city with family, so you must really hate me"

You: You know what.... you can make it up to me tomorrow night at (Name of place)

Her: Ok kewl (relieved)

There you go.... You got HER working for your "forgiveness", you got yourself a date, AND you got the "power" now, not bad ey?


Laterz...

 

[TizZle]

aequitas has it right i believe.. By now she shoul want to hang out with you if she is not playing any sort of games. Doing Aequitas's adivce shoudl help your situation.

 

[Reach]

It's always a tough call. It's hard to tell when someone is genuinely busy and when they're just not that bothered. Tyler Durden's tactic is just to keep everything open and then you can probably screw her further down the line, or at least you'll stand a better chance than if you just don't speak to her at all.

Just make sure you're in control, and next time you talk to her just say, "Okay, what are you doing now? If you're that bothered about it you can make the time. If not I'll just have to find someone else to hang out with."

 

[00Kevin]

You are in the seat of power right now so don't lose it by doing something stupid.

There is a simple rule that you should follow when you don't know what to say to a girl. "SAY NOTHING".

Don't ever say to a girl, "It is ok". After all, a womans words are not to be taken seriousl. Judge her on her actions not her words. If she comes over to your place to make up with you then fine. That is cool. But if you have to go out of your way to show interest again then she is useless.

I would tell this girl that I'll call her again next week when I have time. I'd also give her the option to come over to my place before that. Don't forget, you are a DJ. you have other women booked this week that don't flake out on you. She will have to wait her turn again.


The simple advice here is, "PUT OUT OR SHUT UP"

 

[00Kevin]

a C+F response to her could be. "well you will have to make me breakfa ..um.. I mean dinner sometime."


Any time a woman does something wrong to me I make her cook me something. It makes her prove with action that she is sorry.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I'd be like "oh,ok" and never call her again.

Simple.

 

[Climax]

Never call her again = AFC

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
I'd be like "oh,ok" and never call her again.

Simple.

And where will that get you? with her... NOWHERE! From what I can see, Mintyfresh wants to get her, but without coming out looking like an AFC, and never calling her again wont help, he will just loose her completely.


Laterz...

 

[AMF]

"Im a terrible person" = "Yeah, you are, try and work on that"

"Please forgive me" = "Youre freaking me out" or "Get down on your knees and i'll... consider it" or "I cant. Im too hurt right now" (you can pull of sarcasm I hope.)

"Please dont hate me" = "im sorry but I have to. Everything about you rubs me up the wrong way"

I may be a jerk but women like me.

 

[Alpha Male]

Originally posted by AMF
"Im a terrible person" = "Yeah, you are, try and work on that"

"Please forgive me" = "Youre freaking me out" or "Get down on your knees and i'll... consider it" or "I cant. Im too hurt right now" (you can pull of sarcasm I hope.)

"Please dont hate me" = "im sorry but I have to. Everything about you rubs me up the wrong way"

I may be a jerk but women like me.

LOL Exactly. You, err, free later dude?

 

[PRMoon]

I don't know. I this one sounds kinda pathetic. I can't stand it when anyone beggs for forgiveness. Girls or guys, it really doesn't matter, when some one begs because they finally realize what they've lost and now want to get it back, I just think "what's the point"

Sure you can "revisit" her down the line but you really don't have to talk to her to have sex with her again in the future. It happens all the time, you see a girl out who you knew in the past you have a few drinks together, talk about old times, and the next thing you know you end up nailing her at her apt. then bounce out right after. It's almost standard procedure.

I just don't find it very becoming when a girl calls me repeatedly with a sob story about how sorry they were about this and that. I don't think it's very healthy for either of us. Not for her because instead of wasting her time trying to beat a dead horse (our relationship) she should be starting fresh with some other guy because whatever we had obviously wasn't going to work out. And it's bad for me because there's no real challange (really like the thrill of the hunt) in me returning to conquered territorry. I should be spending my time finding looking somewhere else for someone who'll hold my interest, ie someone new.

If she's begging then I already know I can get with her just about anytime I want so why would I make anymoves at all when they're completely uncessary?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Look her straight in the eyes and say "Talk is cheap..."