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WTF do I do... a friend (thats a girl) emailed me saying she loves me and has feeling

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Popeyes

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Ok basically I don't know wtf to do. I just got the following email from a friend of mine. We're not really that close of friends, but I chilled with her quite a bit last year

"Popeyes i have something to say to u... this is a little hard for me...ok

here goes

Popeyes....ever since september last year ive had feelings for u..i told myself again and again to put them behind me...but i realized last nite when i was looking at your picture on my lap top...that..i just cant

Popeyes i love you....please call me so we can talk about this...**********"

Ok so I'm a 2nd yr university student and I've known this girl for the whole of last school year and the beginning of this one. I wouldn't say we are really good friends, but I went over her house with these guy friend of mine quite alot, mainly because one of my guy friends liked her (he told her this, but she basically told him that she didn't want to ruin their friendship, but they still seem cool and chill a bit). So I'm not sure what to do. She sent me this email on Thursday and I didn't check my email till today. And I did this by logging on MSN messenger and then reading it. The thing is she was online @ the time so basically right after I read it I logged off, so she probably knows I've read it. Now my problem is how do I convey to her that I don't see her that way, and like being her friend, without fvcking up her self esteem or whatever. Mind you I've never been in this type of situation before and want to let her down easy without having things get all fvcked up. Basically have any of you been in this type of situation and what did you say/how did it turn out/etc. Just looking for some advice here.
 

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I was in this situation once and i tried the whole "i like you as a friend but I don't like you that way. I have feelings for someone else".... THat girl will hardly speak to me if i run into her on campus now. Good luck brotha.
 
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so you dont like her at all? she's not good looking? do you have a gf? why won't you give her a chance?
 
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Like you said she isn't that close of a friend anyway. Just tell straight up that you don't feel the same way. If she drops out of your life no biggie. Its not your problem.
 
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sanyo7878 said:
I was in this situation once and i tried the whole "i like you as a friend but I don't like you that way. I have feelings for someone else".... THat girl will hardly speak to me if i run into her on campus now. Good luck brotha.
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So what exactly did you say?

Anyways I'm thinking of just emailing her back, it seems like it's gonna be wierd on the phone.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oh god...

Just tell her you're not interested.

Seriously... that's it. There's nothing you can say except LIE to preserve feelings. ANd that's what women do. Except they do it poorly and PATRONIZE you and give you false hope.

Be a decent person and just say sorry i'm not interested in you in that way. Then it's her problem if her self esteem is soooo damaged. If her self esteem is so hurt maybe that's why you're not interested in such a weak individual.
 
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