"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WTF did i do?!!!

scorpion666

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Ok so theres this chick that i have been seeing for a month. We have been friends for a couple of years and have always liked eachother but she had a bf so that was that. Recently though she broke up with her bf so we hooked up and dated for a few weeks and everything was going really well and she even said she could see us ina relationship in the future when she was "Ready".

Over the past week though shes been acting really weird, she has ignored all my messages an calls and i know for a fact that shes read them, and its very unlike her to just ignore me like that. So i sent her one last message saying if she wasnt interested in me anymore to just tell me and il leave her alone. I get a message back saying that things have been crazy lately and not to get ****ty at her. So i said fair enough and i went NC on her....its been another 4 days an i still havent heard from her? Is she seeing someone else? or more to the point what the hell did i do???? i dont know if i should just next her? help!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ENIGMA16

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Sounds like you were the rebound and she probably found someone she's actually interested in.
 

horaholic

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What do you mean you 'dont know if you should next her'? This is EXACTLY when you need to next her. Take the hint. She's not interested anymore, and it may or may not be your fault. She could be seeing someone else, or you could've fvcked it up. It doesnt really matter. Just delete her number so you dont do something stupid like call her, and move on with your life. The awkwardness should subside eventually. She wasnt ready, anyway, and you shouldnt blame her too much. Just be cool about it, and find another girl, pronto. It happens, get used to it. That comes with the territory of going for someone freshly broken up. Fvck her. Actually, go fvck other girls.

Chances are, its her going through her woman shyt, so dont waste any time wondering what you did wrong. Just move on, and write it off to her being too selfish to talk to you.
 

FinalWay

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you didn't do anything wrong so that is your answer. however, when you sent her that message saying if she was interested or not and then she came back with "things have been crazy lately," i would never of looked back. just another move trying to point the finger at you. just move on.
 
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