Wtf!! Am I Supposed To Do!!

[cool dude]

I do not have a night life at all!! All the pua s say go out everynight but how can I do tht if I cant get anywhere!? Did anyone think of that. Some people say you don't need a car thats just materialistic thinking....Fuk that! You do need some of these things like a car to go places. I have no freinds that will get me so I am stuck at my house again. I asked this chick to get me but she blew me off. I ask a freind to get me but he blew me off. So what can I do. I hate this!! Am I really a loser. I mean I just feel so lost. I really need some uplifting advice guys please!!

I finally have a job but I cant spend it on clubbin or whatever becuase I cant get anywhere

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I do not have a night life at all!! All the pua s say go out everynight but how can I do tht if I cant get anywhere!? Did anyone think of that. Some people say you don't need a car thats just materialistic thinking....Fuk that! You do need some of these things like a car to go places. I have no freinds that will get me so I am stuck at my house again. I asked this chick to get me but she blew me off. I ask a freind to get me but he blew me off. So what can I do. I hate this!! Am I really a loser. I mean I just feel so lost. I really need some uplifting advice guys please!!

I finally have a job but I cant spend it on clubbin or whatever becuase I cant get anywhere

You need to work on yourself first. Don't worry about dating until you know what are you going to do about your predicament.

Then get a car.
Make some friends.
Take a cab/bus/metro, etc.

Talk/approach girls in the daytime, everywhere you go. Take a college class.

 

[Taste]

I do not have a night life at all!! All the pua s say go out everynight but how can I do tht if I cant get anywhere!? Did anyone think of that. Some people say you don't need a car thats just materialistic thinking....Fuk that! You do need some of these things like a car to go places. I have no freinds that will get me so I am stuck at my house again. I asked this chick to get me but she blew me off. I ask a freind to get me but he blew me off. So what can I do. I hate this!! Am I really a loser. I mean I just feel so lost. I really need some uplifting advice guys please!!

I finally have a job but I cant spend it on clubbin or whatever becuase I cant get anywhere

I do most of my approaching in the day because when I see a woman with the right kind of energy and looks, I feel consumed with passion and have no choice but to approach her. I find girls to be more open and friendly in the day. So who gives a **** if you dont have a night life? I have a friend who hates going out to clubs but loves to meet girls at college.

As for being alone man. I've been there myself. I had zero friends, but when you take charge of your life and you take action to make this life the best it can be, you'll connect with people and make cool connections.

Even if you have to start with meeting girls on facebook, it doesn't ****ing matter. Just start. That is what matters. If you don't try you wont get anything.

 

[cool dude]

Yea it just sucks because I feel trapt. I mean it took me 2 hours to get home today.If I had a car it would only take about 25 minutes. I sometimes wonder how people have friends that drive them to places. I wonder how did they meet them. What are they doing to be so cool I guess you would say.

Gangster of love. What do you mean work on myself.

Taste. Yea man I mean I don't know what they hell is up. I don't act like an *******, people seem to enjoy my company,but I guess I am not acting in a way that people find great yet. How can I change myself if I don't know what to change?

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Gangster Of Love offered some really good advice. I would give it some thought.

From the situation you've described, women should not really be on your radar at the moment. You seem to have some foundation problems that need fixing. If you don't get them taken care of first, you will sabotage most of the things you try to build on top of them. Just as a building built on top of an unstable foundation will fall. Same principle.

Focus on getting yourself a car first. Relying on other people to provide you with transportation is needy. Neediness will impede on your success with most anything. You have to learn to be self-sufficient in order to have a solid foundation.

Best of luck.

 

[cool dude]

Gangster Of Love offered some really good advice. I would give it some thought.

From the situation you've described, women should not really be on your radar at the moment. You seem to have some foundation problems that need fixing. If you don't get them taken care of first, you will sabotage most of the things you try to build on top of them. Just as a building built on top of an unstable foundation will fall. Same principle.

Focus on getting yourself a car first. Relying on other people to provide you with transportation is needy. Neediness will impede on your success with most anything. You have to learn to be self-sufficient in order to have a solid foundation.

Best of luck.

Yes you are right.Funny thing there is a car show down the street from me.HAHa

I went there and there is a bunch of american muscle cars! I even saw a ford gt! what a coincidence but yea while there I was thinking about what he said. I came to the conclusion I have other things to get solved first before thinking about women. Like getting a car and trying to get enough money to get one. I have some some problems with myself that I need to fix first.

 

[Joe Stud]

C'mon brother DJ, just stop & catch your breath. You have a job now, so tell one of your friends to drive you for a few hours-and pay him $50. Then, go to a few local used car dealers, and pick out a used car valued at about $2000. Make sure they can finance it. Payments should be about $200 a month ($50 per wk). Get on the road. Clean it up nice & neat, and put one of those air fresheners in it. Better yet, spray some seductive cologne in there. Then get out there. Also, tell your boss of your situation. offer to work any overtime available- even cut a secret deal to work 3 hrs, for 2 hrs ot pay. That will sweeten the deal. Drink draft beer when you go out (least expensive-lasts a long time), and start frequenting the joints where there are chicks. You can do it... just get past the frustration. Do it man!

 

[cool dude]

I'm not in high school life seemed easier then though.

I am biching about stupid stuff I realize,but at that moment I felt hurt that I do not have people I can connect with where I live. I would like a social circle but there are more things in life I can find to make me happy.

I just, need to figure things out,so I am not going to read anymore things on pickup for a while, I am not going to visit this site for a while,I am going to do some soul searching. Don't get me wrong I am still going to chase tail from time to time.

It's just I guess i feel alone,left out, and misunderstood, and unappreciated.
I am lookin for something that I do not put in the time to look for so I am lost.

I am insecure, unsure, fake to some degree, and alone. My happiness is fake. My intelligence feels slow but probably because of my mental situation. I do not know how I am goin to do this; I thought I was through with this problem but I guess not.

Old schooler I appreciate your advice but it's flawed.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

How old are you by the way?

A lot of people go to soul searching but I think world searching is better. Go read some books on communication, socialization, positive thinking. Join the gym. Improve your looks by changing hairstyle, clothing, etc.

It seems you are not so pleased with yourself. If you are not pleased with yourself, how can others be pleased with you?

Do something about how your situation! It's fun to see your improvement.

I am 21 now, and a few days ago I looked back at pictures when I was 18. I was totally surprised, and equally horrified: When I was 18, I looked like ****, and I had bad clothing, horrible haircut, quite pale, skinny fat etc.

It was a long process. But eventually, I improved my clothing, I got a decent haircut, got under a sun bed, worked out.

And now I look at pictures now, and I didn't even realize I looked this good and muscular (even with clothes on).


Get a used car.

What are you passionate about? Politics? Photography? Martial arts? Find your passion and become good at it. It's fun, and becoming good at something you like is what makes the human spirit.

And when you get a car and you go to a bar, just have fun. Smile at girls, do silly stuff, have a good time.

 

[slaog]

You wanted to know why you don't connect with people. You've answered your own question below.

I am insecure, unsure, fake to some degree, and alone. My happiness is fake. My intelligence feels slow but probably because of my mental situation. I do not know how I am goin to do this; I thought I was through with this problem but I guess not.

People want to feel good. If you don't feel good yourself you're not going to make others feel good.


You also talked about wanting to search for answers and not coming on this site again for a while. Well if you want answers you should stick around and read, read, read as much as you can. Read the tips section and the DJ bible etc and understand what it all means.

 

[Nygard]

You don't really NEED a car, man. It's nice if you do but not mandatory. I've been out in Los Angeles, where people say that you're nobody without a car, and I've found my way around and with some nightlife using public transport and some old-fashioned walking.