"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Writing your story

Sammo

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For some reason you are here, you have been born and you sit here as a physical manifestaition of my conciousness (at least i think so, i can't say for sure but what you post on the internet is definetelly there). You are here to grow. You started of as 1 tiny cell and you grew in to an infant. You are always growing and always will be.

The stages of your life will continue to creep up on you wether you want them to or not. Childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, adulthood, etc. Once your are past one stage there is no going back, its gone forever. Each stage of maturity brings a different blend of experiences and oppurtunities for growth.

The challenges of life are there to test your abilities, if you can't take on the simplest of challenges you won't ever have the chance to take on bigger challenges. I dont know why, but it appears as if some supreme being is giving you challenges he thinks you can handle. Your own conciousness is presenting you challenges it thinks you can handle in order to move on and grow.

Throughtout your life you will have challenges. These challenges will be unique to your life all though some will be similair, talking to girls, getting a job, talking to new people, these will all be tasks your conciosness will try and force you to take at one time or another.

By taking ALL of the challenges your conciousness seems to be setting for yourself you are giving yourself the oppurtunity for growth. Only by constant challenge and improvement will you ever experience growth.

At the end of all this it will be time for your story to come to an end, you will die. You wont exist. You will be gone.

Write your story while you can, because in a few moments it will be someone elses turn.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TonyTheTigerOI

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In the book, it says that god only gives us challenges that we, ourselves (with maybe a lil holy-foot-in-the-ass), can accomplish. Look at your life - what problems directly affecting your life CANT you solve?

Even those you cant... you can isolate, and remove/minimize their influence on your life. Im not a religious person... but I know that if I can see the top of the mountain, my feet can take me there.
 

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When we die, we are only remembered by the memory that we leave behind. So if we are good enough to leave behind a memory that is substantial enough to last forever, we never really die. And if we leave behind no story or memory at all, then in the huge scheme of things, the world would have been the same if we had not existed. That's why I want to do something great in my lifetime. Nice post, Sammo.
 

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Originally posted by October
When we die, we are only remembered by the memory that we leave behind. So if we are good enough to leave behind a memory that is substantial enough to last forever, we never really die. And if we leave behind no story or memory at all, then in the huge scheme of things, the world would have been the same if we had not existed. That's why I want to do something great in my lifetime. Nice post, Sammo.
you mean it would have been the same if we had not been individuals, are you saying all the people that leave no memory behind dont change the world? i mean if we had just like less than a million people right now, just the really significant ones, wouldnt the world be different?

dont small things add up to big things
and isnt raising a family sometime leaving a mark on the earth and an accomplishment better than other more famous things.
 

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Great way to look at life....how many pages are filled and how many are blank.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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