the difference between success and failure is reactiveness. Will you react to whatever she says or does, or will you go your own path and 'allow' her to follow?
Okay, easier said then done, I know, but isntead of just saying 'youre a reactive *****' and just leaving it at that, here's what I suggest you can do to improve your chances next time:
- Women want a leader, wether they want to admit it or not. Any girl that says otherwise is just gauging your reaction to see if you're the real deal. Leadership should be subtle at first before leading to the big favors. Just remember, SMALL LEADS TO BIG. Start with small leads like 'have a seat' 'come on up' 'lets go over there' and before saying the suggestion, gesture it in your body language. Eventually, these small leads stack up to the point where she's comfortable with your larger suggestions 'come up to my room' 'come on my bed' etc.
- On the note of her gauging her reaction, your reaction should be NONE. Unshakability is a key attribute every man should have, but very few men do. If you wanna test this out, just put yourself in situations where you have to chose to react, or to 'proact'...see what you do more often, and if you think there needs to be a change, then be proactive and change it.
- Remember that women's feelings change minute to minute, and there are MANY times where they eat their own words, but never want to admit it. A friend of mine actually made a video based on this, where he followed and documented the facebook posts of a perticular hot girl on his friends list, then noted the reactions the guys gave. If you're curious:
http://www.247attractiveman.com/free-video/
Anyway, don't let the girls moment by moment reactions shake you. Instead, look at the big picture, your grand game plan, and have the balls to stick to it.
The winners in life are like the winners in chess: They think at least 3 moves ahead. Not many people do, which is why not many people play chess - Unknown
Hope these tips helped you out. Best of luck and keep on, keepin on.
-Spartz
