"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Wow, you are becoming a man"

mangotot

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'Are you woman enough for me?'. Wait for a reply and transition to other conversation.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Any time I encounter a "compliment" that could be either a true compliment, a tease, a put-down, or whatever.. I give a relaxed "Well that's very kind of you to say," and then I change the subject.

It's just kind of a nothing reply, but it's unassailable, doesn't make you sound like a douche or a dork, and prevents you from standing there dumbfounded.

If you can come up with a witty reply (none of the above posts offered one, no offense), then go with that. But I think mine is a good backup if you can't.

If the person then replies, "I was just kidding," or "I was being sarcastic," you say, "Oh, I see," and then again change the subject.
 

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Zarky said:
Any time I encounter a "compliment" that could be either a true compliment, a tease, a put-down, or whatever.. I give a relaxed "Well that's very kind of you to say," and then I change the subject.
If there is a possibility at all they are trying to put you down the last thing you want to say is "Well that's kind of you to say".
 
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