"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wow this deserves a mother f*cking thread

vagrant

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Alright so this is what happened. I formed a study group with these 2 girls in my class. We've all been hanging out a lot already.

Anyways one of the girl wasn't supposed to come to lab this morning because shes' out of town so me and the other girl decided we weren't going to class also. She brought up meeting at barnes and noble to study this morning.everything was cool.

So what happened? I get a call just now asking me if I was coming to class. This is the first time we ever talked on the phone. She said she was going to eat at mcdonalds and probably stay at the library. I'm telling you, I was speechless. She acted as if we never ever texted last night about going to barnes and noble.

I didn't remind her anything. I didn't go, hey aren't we supposed to meet up at barnes n noble? I was just very confused.

Note that this girl has a boyfriend of 6 years. No I don't think she's crazy. She is definitely normal but something is messed up.

we were supposed to meet 2 hours from now. Should I say something or just let it go?

I'm f*cking confused. Is she playing games? Is it because she has a boyfriend? Man, what the f*ck happened?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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not really....

I'm not sure I see the problem. First of all, where's the sign of interest? You guys got together for a study session. Unless you ended up making out, I don't see how that means anything, really.
 

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You have to understand. She was the one who brought up the idea of going to barnes n noble to study not me.
 

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What do you care? Did you form the group to study or to mack on a chic with a boyfriend? What are you motives here? Because face it, you can study on your own and probably do better on your own seeing as how she's flakey. If you started all of this just to mack on this girl..well that's a whole different kettle of fish isn't it? So which is it? To pass your class or get some ass?
 

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Studies and girls togheter? u have some gut man.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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actually, no offense, but this doesn't deserve a thread.
 

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Thanks warrior. I needed that. What am I thinking taking these little girls seriously. I need to pass. You're right. Thanks!
 

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Forgive me people for overreacting. I just would have never done such a thing. This is the first time a girl flake's on me. I didn't know sh*t was possible.
 

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Why is this a thread?

It's not even a "date". You two were just getting together to study.

You LIKE this girl or something? I'm just sure her boyfriend of 6 years banged her after texting you and banged her SO GOOD that it screwed with her mind and made her forget about Barnes and Nobles.

I don't get it, why are you so strung up about a girl in your class?
You've said ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to indicate that she even has a slight amount of interest in you.

So... I don't see the "flake".
 

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Kailex said:
Why is this a thread?

It's not even a "date". You two were just getting together to study.

You LIKE this girl or something? I'm just sure her boyfriend of 6 years banged her after texting you and banged her SO GOOD that it screwed with her mind and made her forget about Barnes and Nobles.

I don't get it, why are you so strung up about a girl in your class?
You've said ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to indicate that she even has a slight amount of interest in you.

So... I don't see the "flake".
So, my buddy Mike was gonna come by to play Madden and then he didn't SHOW and he didn't CALL!!!! I just wanna know...is he playing games or what?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Iceberg said:
So, my buddy Mike was gonna come by to play Madden and then he didn't SHOW and he didn't CALL!!!! I just wanna know...is he playing games or what?
It all depends.

Have you F-Closed by this point?
If not, what IOI's have you noticed?

And most importantly, are you sure you have the latest version of Madden?
 

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Kailex said:
It all depends.

Have you F-Closed by this point?
If not, what IOI's have you noticed?

And most importantly, are you sure you have the latest version of Madden?

:crackup:

post of the day
 

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A girl want to study with you and you saw that as a flirt? man talk about afc....

Kailex said:
It all depends.

Have you F-Closed by this point?
If not, what IOI's have you noticed?

And most importantly, are you sure you have the latest version of Madden?
:crackup:

Got my vote on post of the day lol
 

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Alright so I texted her,

Me: Hey where are you?
Her: Im in the library. Where are you?
Me: nvm, I'm at starbucks.
Her: whaaaaaa wait I'm going there, I need some coffee right now.

Let's not jump to conclusions here. You guys don't know me and you guys don't know her boyfriend. Her interest level is high I know, but no matter how much I like her and how much I want to tap it, I'm not going there.

I'm done losing friends. Just because I'm h*rny? I want to live my life and sex isn't my life. I want cool friends around which she is. I like her personality and she is a girlfriend material to me. I would love to steal her away but I know it's useless because I don't want a relationship with a girl right now.

I've messed around with girls and most of them I'm not friends with anymore. F*ck buddy never works because women want relationship with a cool dude. I'm not ready to settle down with anyone.

I'm just saying these things because I know you guys are thinking I have a secret agenda and all that bs. Sure I like the girl and want to f*cking hit it like I said but no. She's a cool chick. I can always find another girl to mess around with.

It was just weird how she asked me to go to barnes and noble and call me the next day like she never did.

Lame thread, I agree.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if it was for studying, why didn't you just remind her that you guys were meeting up at barnes and nobles?
 

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omega05 said:
if it was for studying, why didn't you just remind her that you guys were meeting up at barnes and nobles?
Right. It's not like this guy is making moves on her. If she's just a friend, then F'n call her to remind her.
 
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