"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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wow my luck-i break up with my gf of 9 months and this girl i've had a crush on tells

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me we needa hangout sometime, here's how it went down

we were in pre calc and she sat by me the whole semester because of our seating chart and the whole semester long we flirted a lot and every single day, i never asked her to hangout or anything because I had a gf, and also I had her number from the year before but I didn't follow up on it last summer after school got out, but anyways....

me:wow i just realized this is the last day we have a class together and i probably won't see you next week

her:i know huh...its weird, we needa hangout but we probably won't at all this summer cuz you know...your too cool to hangout with me (she was joking here)

she slid her hand on my back and started rubbing it during this

me: yeah true but eh we'll see what happens...we probably will though

i put my hand on her back too

she started laughing a little:eek:k that works for me and here she gave me a huge smile

me:haha ok well i'll talk to sometime and we'll hangout for sure

and then when class was over and we walked out i had her give me a hug and that was that, i'm sure i'm missing something but oh well thats what i remember of it, and this happened two days after i broke up with my gf of 9 months and this girl didn't know we broke up and didn't know her either

so i know its scattered but thanks for reading, just one thing though cuz its been awhile since i've in this whole situation should i try to hangout with her this weekend or wait til next weekend?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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take her to the next big party everyones going to
 

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stoner1129 said:
so i know its scattered but thanks for reading, just one thing though cuz its been awhile since i've in this whole situation
No problem dude, I actually enjoyed reading it ;)

My mood becomes slightly elevated when I see a fellow member of the community rising up from the ashes of social rejection in order to achieve success with women :up:


stoner1129 said:
should i try to hangout with her this weekend or wait til next weekend?
Hang out with her as soon as possible! ----> before it's too late!

Strike while the iron is hot!
:D
 

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lol ok well i guess i'll just see tomorrow if she wants to go to the drive in on saturday
 

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well i texted her earlier and apparently she already had plans for tonight and tomorrow night
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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