Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Here comes the strong, female lead (Emma Watson) to rescue men from themselves! Thx but no thx, Emma. The "Heforshe" campaign or whatever other feminist crusade she is on has the same underlying message as all the rest: you go girl!dasein said:Sorry to be cynical, but this is transparently just "throwing a bone" in efforts to enlist more men into discriminatory feminist causes. When women start speaking out against discriminatory antimale legal treatment, discriminatory govt research/grant/funds expenditure and feminist victimologies of false "oppression" such as bogus wage gap and glass ceiling complaints, then I'll pay attention. Until then it's just calculated noise towards more political benefit for feminists/women.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dasein said:Sorry to be cynical, but this is transparently just "throwing a bone" in efforts to enlist more men into discriminatory feminist causes. When women start speaking out against discriminatory antimale legal treatment, discriminatory govt research/grant/funds expenditure and feminist victimologies of false "oppression" such as bogus wage gap and glass ceiling complaints, then I'll pay attention. Until then it's just calculated noise towards more political benefit for feminists/women.
I agree with both of you, but at least it's a start. In the past, you couldn't even get a mention. It's gotten so blatant now that you can't help but see it.SoSuave666 said:Here comes the strong, female lead (Emma Watson) to rescue men from themselves! Thx but no thx, Emma. The "Heforshe" campaign or whatever other feminist crusade she is on has the same underlying message as all the rest: you go girl!
I agree. It's true males are negatively and erroneously stereotyped by the media/society of course. But when the term "male gender roles and stereotypes are harmful.." is used, it's still feminist speak. Males and females should have roles and even stereotypes. The question is just what those roles should and shouldn't, which this article misses .dasein said:Sorry to be cynical, but this is transparently just "throwing a bone" in efforts to enlist more men into discriminatory feminist causes. When women start speaking out against discriminatory antimale legal treatment, discriminatory govt research/grant/funds expenditure and feminist victimologies of false "oppression" such as bogus wage gap and glass ceiling complaints, then I'll pay attention. Until then it's just calculated noise towards more political benefit for feminists/women.
Right. You even bring up this subject to most women (and Men), and their first reaction would be "Huh? What are you talking about?" Then you could spend 20 minutes explaining it to them, then it would still be a 50/50 chance that they'd think you were crazy. Her speaking out about something like this, is a lot different than me running my mouth on something like FB, or posters on this site complaining about it, which I've seen quite a bit of.speed dawg said:I agree with both of you, but at least it's a start. In the past, you couldn't even get a mention. It's gotten so blatant now that you can't help but see it.
Not sure if you read her speech, but I did and it seemed to be more of the same old BS: men should be more sensitive, women should be more masculine, pay gap blah blah, pro-abortion etc.Peaks&Valleys said:Right. You even bring up this subject to most women (and Men), and their first reaction would be "Huh? What are you talking about?" Then you could spend 20 minutes explaining it to them, then it would still be a 50/50 chance that they'd think you were crazy. Her speaking out about something like this, is a lot different than me running my mouth on something like FB, or posters on this site complaining about it, which I've seen quite a bit of.
One step at a time. It's not all going to change over night.
No I didn't. Read the article, didn't go past that. But this^ doesn't sound very heartwarming.TyTe`EyEz said:Not sure if you read her speech, but I did and it seemed to be more of the same old BS: men should be more sensitive, women should be more masculine, pay gap blah blah, pro-abortion etc.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, dude, Roissy got on her pretty good.Peaks&Valleys said:No I didn't. Read the article, didn't go past that. But this^ doesn't sound very heartwarming.![]()