Wow. I really need help getting over her.

[LostAndConfused]

This is going to sound really pathetic, and the worst part is I KNOW I'm a freaking hypocrite for all of this.

As you might know I was dumped in the middle of April.

It took me a while but after about two weeks I "got over" her.

*I hooked up with one girl the weekend after she dumped me and it made me feel worse (I cried).

She kept talking to me online, acting like we were never dating in the first place (that hurt even more) so eventually I figured I wanted her COMPLETELY OUT and I told her to never talk to me again. She kept apologizing for "whatever she did" but I knew it was best to burn that bridge, I knew there was no chance we could get back together.

Recently, I've been hooking up with more girls, I've been out and talking to alot of girls and....to put a long story short, I'm now thinking about her more than ever.

Why is this?

The worst part of it all is that I noticed shes openly listed as single and its pissing me off. I don't see why because I've been going around seeing other girls...

 

[f283000]

This is your mistake for letting her use you for whatever emotional needs she is using you for because now she's ____ some other guy, you are no longer good enough for her but she still finds you useful for amusement. You are better than that, you shouldn't let yourself be used by women. The moment she said it was over it was time to get her off your myspace, facebook, cellphone and if she ever did contact you by any means you should have made her accountable to the contract SHE LAID FOR YOU (dumping you)

"im sorry but I don't think we should talk, there is nothing more between us, friendship is not possible, sorry, good luck"

You need to realize women are manipulative cold hearted creatures. Do you think any self respecting man would be allowing himself to get into regular contacts with the woman that dumped him?

 

[LostAndConfused]

"im sorry but I don't think we should talk, there is nothing more between us, friendship is not possible, sorry, good luck"

You obviously didn't read my whole post.

She kept talking to me online, acting like we were never dating in the first place (that hurt even more) so eventually I figured I wanted her COMPLETELY OUT and I told her to never talk to me again. She kept apologizing for "whatever she did" but I knew it was best to burn that bridge, I knew there was no chance we could get back together.

No, I COMPLETELY understand she's *WAS* trying to make herself feel better for what she did by talking to me casually. And that was evident when I DID stop talking to her when she kept apologizing.

I'm just trying to get over her. I'm talking and hooking up with other girls but it still hasn't helped.

 

[f283000]

But you are a nice guy and didn't ignore her. What do girls do to us guys if they are not interested in us? they don't answer our calls, they don't answer our texts. Give them a taste of their own medicine. You are way too nice and brought it on yourself.

I had a tougher situation than yours. This B|otch worked at my place in my same dept. I had to put up seeing her every day and seeing her flirt with other guys because she was hot and loved to flirt. I deleted her from myspace, facebook, told her that we couldn't be friends and to stop talking to each other by phone because "what happened between us meant we couldn't be friends, just not my style." It took a while for the feelings to be gone and it was torture to go to work and see her flirt, but as I got used to not having any communication with her things got better.

We need to use their own tactics against them. Women wouldn't be giving us the time of day if they were seeing other guys and not interested in us, so why do we have to be nice and be answering their messages to us? give them a taste of their own medicine, ignore them completely after it's over.

 

[Cinamon]

Do you still want to be with her? The way she has treated you has not deterred you from wanting to date her?

I had an ex who i dated for almost three years, i loved him very much, but it was obvious things werent going to work before us. In our final year together we broke up and got together bout 30 times, and it werent because we actually liked each other to the extent that we couldnt be apart, the problem was neither of us could accept being dumped. He'd dump me, i'd make him get back together with me, i'd dump him he would make me get back together with him. It got to a point that i finally accepted i should just be a dumpee.

So, i guess what i am trying to ask is, is it the fact that you are not together that is makingh it hurt or the fact that you got dumped. Sometimes you just need to dust yourself off and move on.

 

[Cherokee]

Is Cinamon a chick?

But yeah as (s)he said in a roudabout of words

"Theres plenty more fish in the sea"

but who wants to date a fish right?

 

[Mr_rogers]

Time heals all wounds, my friend. Just cut off all contact with her like you have and do what you can to keep your mind off of her. Sooner or later you'll be okay. Hang in there!

 

[Three3Kingz]

its always tough losing someone dude. It could take days or months to get over it, but at some point you will. I found that when i went through my first breakup i just couldnt be with any girls for a while because all the memories of her would come back everytime i did. I think the one thing that guys have to remember when they go through a breakup, is that girls come and go. Its not the end of the world when you lose someone. There will always be another one down the line

 

[Crazy Asian]

lol from ur title i thought u were talking about WoW, as in world of warcraft, and how you need to get over that game.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Hahahaha I wish I had video game problems compared to this...

And thanks so much brothers for your support.

Do you still want to be with her?

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So, i guess what i am trying to ask is, is it the fact that you are not together that is makingh it hurt or the fact that you got dumped.

Nah, we've all faced rejection before. I just found this girl really special compared to others so whenever I'm with another girl I'm upset that we aren't together.

 

[Cherokee]

Nah, we've all faced rejection before. I just found this girl really special compared to others so whenever I'm with another girl I'm upset that we aren't together.

we've all been there aswell, everything is relative to our own situation. Getting over someone or a situation takes time, and the best thing to aid time is to have some fun with your own life. Get some hobbies, go to a theme park! =D hang out with some dudes for a while. I'm going through a break up with my gf of 3 1/2 years mate, so I know how you feel, except this time I'm not in the mood for BullSh!t. You will meet someone who makes you feel good again, it will happen. But for this to work, you gotta go out and make it happen.

No one on this forum can give you good advice unless your willing to take it, and we all heal and get over things in different ways and different amounts of time. Good luck to you bro, hope you find what your looking for.