wow, i feel like a *****

[imarockstar]

whats up guys, ive got a minor problem. this is kinda long so bear with me. i just moved to a new city where i know virtually noone. me and my gf moved here, but broke up recently. ive been wanting to date and talk to new girls, which i have no problem with during the day or at the mall etc. well anyways, last friday was halloween. i went out, i had to push myself to do so, but i did it bc i knew id regret not doing it. it was an easy situation though, i was wearing some pimp ass clothes, but i had face paint on, so if i got rejected the girl wouldnt recognize me out and about or at the club the next week. well i danced with a few girls, but i felt so out of it. i hadnt eaten dinner that night, and the booze was crushing me by my 4 or 5th one, i just felt dissolved of energy. it was an ok night, i danced with girls, and they walked away but i just didnt want to play the game that night and follow up on any of them. well my problem is this, im pretty outgoing and confident, but i feel like im an outcast if i were to go to a club alone. the people i work with are major losers, and other than that the only person down here is my ex. well weve made up, were still friends, and i had a one nighter with her last week. all night i had been contemplating going out, and kept getting a sick feeling. i just feel weird without any friends, or "wingmen". i feel less confident and i dont know why. so my ex called me earlier and asked if i wanted to go out with her and her friends, and i said yes of course, beats the hell out of my apartment. i figure itll give me some comfort at this club i frequent, but i know i probably wont be able to take a girl home because my ex will be right there with me, and thats just wrong. now you can see why my thread title is 'wow im a *****'. ive been thinking of getting a part time job as a server just to meet some people to hang with, im great at making friends. its just for some damn reason i feel less confident when im alone at a club, like everyones thinking man this guy has no friends, even though i know its all in my head. the other thing is that if i had friends with me, id have the mindset that no matter what me and my buddies are gettin drunk, and the girls are a bonus to the night. by being alone, the mindstate is, **** i need to talk to all these girls and get at least one number or my night is a failure. and thats why i get in a nervous state, that if i get dissed by every girl, my night wont be fun. im pretty outgoing, ive been working my confidence and self esteem up lately and theyre both pretty high, and i consider myself a good looking guy. anyone got any advice to get me in the right state of mind, or can someone share their stories of going to clubs by theirselves? thanks dudes

 

[CFERD]

What city did you relocate to, you may find some people close by in the wing forum. I think your right though. Getting a job as a server will allow you to meet some new people and most like to go out after work, usually in a group.