guywhoneedshelp
Master Don Juan
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This is hilarious. :clap:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
It depends on how good the guys are. AFC Adam's success rate is about 50%.persistent exaction said:try it and you will see. There were two guys (on another forum) who each did their own distinct cold approach experiments and reported back and they both concluded the same thing, that it works 5% of the time. And it makes sense no? This is about = to the odds of something random happening, which is about what your chances are when cold approaching. It's entirely a numbers game. 5% of the time you will run into a situation where someone says YES from a purely cold approach. I don't care if someone wants to hit up 20 chicks to get one date. That's your business and what you want to do with your time. I would rather spend my time doing other things, like working on inner game.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
He is right. People are laughing at you and they don't care to try to prove it to you, so he's right.justiceseeker said:Unlike texastornado, I don't derive my self esteem or friends from online chat forums. On one hand he says people are laughing at me, and on the next he's saying nobody cares?
Noob is def being over generous here.Actually, Noob and I have set something up. He's flying by me, and I'm going to follow him around and verify his results. So tornado, I guess somebody did care enough to come and try to prove it.
Nope, i know Texas Tornado personally and he speaks the truth. We have sarged together before. He has the credibility. So u def are the one hiding behind ur computer. Why don't u fly to Noob instead of him coming to you? If ur that deadset on trying to prove us cold approach practicioners wrong, then u'd be the one to buy a ticket.I don't like him, but at least he has the guts to show up and try to back his **** up. Tornado the butt pirate just talks **** hiding behind his computer.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
club game is way harder than cold approaching. in the club, the girl's comprehension level is lower, you're competing with the noise in the environment, and you have to deal with drunk cckblocks or the girl's fat friend who isn't having any funjusticeseeker said:You guys are fvcking idiots. I'm not afraid to cold approach, but there are other, more effective ways to get women.
I'd glady fly there, I'd even fly by you too. I'm not the one making the bull**** claims. YOU GUYS ARE. Back your bull**** up or go home.DonJoseCantosie said:He is right. People are laughing at you and they don't care to try to prove it to you, so he's right.
Noob is def being over generous here.
Nope, i know Texas Tornado personally and he speaks the truth. We have sarged together before. He has the credibility. So u def are the one hiding behind ur computer. Why don't u fly to Noob instead of him coming to you? If ur that deadset on trying to prove us cold approach practicioners wrong, then u'd be the one to buy a ticket.
That is a easy way. But, ask yourself this. How did you get those friends in the first place?? They didn't magicly appear! You just randomly started talking to other kids when you were young. Boom, you became friends.suavesuave said:iafyb,
thru friends and relatives. thats the fastest way.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.