Wow, her mum came to talk to me?

[Ouzo]

Me and my girlfriend just broke up. I don't know really why - everything was good one night and then two hours later she said she wasnt happy and ended it. I'm not fussed, girls are girls and I don't try understand them.

I went to hers to get some stuff left at her house and it was kinda weird. Most of my stuff had been taken down the next day (photos, etc).

Anyway her mum came over this morning to tell me to keep trying to talk to her. She is holding everything in and her mum wants me to try get it out.

Me personally I just want to be friends with her. It sounds sissy but me and her got on so well. I don't want a gf right now anyway but I want her there because she is fun to be around.

But I don't want to sound naggy ...

What the **** do I do. Her mum has asked me to try talk to her. Weird.

 

[brenbaus]

Wait a few days, then try to call her. If she does not awnser, go to her house, and explain what you want from her and yourself in this relationship that you now have. Because you have broken up, things may be a little wierd until she realizes that you really do just want to be friends (with or without benefits, whatever the case) Once she realizes that you only want to be friends, and dont expect to get back with her, as long as she is open to having you as a friend, go for it. As far as figuring out why she broke up with you, I wouldnt even try, she wont tell you, and this friendship thing you want will not work out, espicially if she cant trust you.

 

[Ouzo]

Originally posted by brenbaus
Wait a few days, then try to call her. If she does not awnser, go to her house, and explain what you want from her and yourself in this relationship that you now have. Because you have broken up, things may be a little wierd until she realizes that you really do just want to be friends (with or without benefits, whatever the case) Once she realizes that you only want to be friends, and dont expect to get back with her, as long as she is open to having you as a friend, go for it.

This is exactly what I plan on doing. You see her mum really wants her to start opening up and expressing herself. Its weird but her mum and I get on really well.

Originally posted by brenbaus
As far as figuring out why she broke up with you, I wouldnt even try, she wont tell you, and this friendship thing you want will not work out, espicially if she cant trust you.

Hang on didn't you say it might work out? Lol, now ya saying it wont? The thing is her mum told me she was the happiest she had even been when she was with me and she was.

And I don't plan on working out why she broke up with me. Girls are girls. If she aint attracted then she wont stay.

 

[brenbaus]

What I was saying was, if you try and figure out why broke up with you, then the friendship thing wont work out. If you like her company, tell her.

One thing you can do also, is start dating again so you seem like you are over her, and she will be more open to being friends with you. Even if you dont want a g/f, just get one anyway, but dont bring her around your ex, that is a very bad thing (most of the time)


So basically,


Tell her that you still want to be friends and you still want to talk to her

Either start dating or get a g/f so you dont look desperate and you can prove to her that you are over her and you really do just want to be friends



Reading this over, I am starting to ramble on about the same sh!t, someone stop me before I fvck something up for this guy

 

[Ouzo]

Ahahah its ok bro.

The thing is she knows I can get other woman. She had to do a lot to get me in the first place (when I was playing her, a sex freak ...and another sex freak).

I will deft. move on but I don't think I will date at the moment.

But actually no bro you did give me one thing to remember. Don't ask her about why she broke up with me. This is naggy and it will give her mixed ideas about me being freinds with her.

Thanks bro

PS: The reason I also want to remain friends is that she is in the social group that we hang out with (its a very big group lol ...its high school ...there is like a core 100 people that know each other). And I just want things to be good.

 

[Nightwing]

Althought the mom seems like a nice person and appears to hold you in high regard for her to do that, let her mom talk to her. That's not your problem what's wrong with her-dont be so fvckin nice.

In the meantime, focus on your own personal goals. And if you have other females on the side, have your fun with them and dont get caught in the drama of a comitted relationship for a while.

 

[Ouzo]

Originally posted by Nightwing
Althought the mom seems like a nice person and appears to hold you in high regard for her to do that, let her mom talk to her. That's not your problem what's wrong with her-dont be so fvckin nice.

In the meantime, focus on your own personal goals. And if you have other females on the side, have your fun with them and dont get caught in the drama of a comitted relationship for a while.

Thanks bro. I didn't know if I wanted to help sort it out.

So what I'm going to do is just offer her my friendship. Not bring up the relationship. If she wants to be friends then fine. Otherwise, I guess I'm through with her.

:cheer:

 

[Nightwing]

Originally posted by Blazer
Thanks bro. I didn't know if I wanted to help sort it out.

So what I'm going to do is just offer her my friendship. Not bring up the relationship. If she wants to be friends then fine. Otherwise, I guess I'm through with her.

:cheer:

Glad to hear that you're kicking her to the curb.

If I were you, I wouldn't even give her the honor of being "just friends" with you. Like I stated before, don't be the fvcking nice guy.

Remember the time and attention you gave to her was not a right, it was a privilage which she threw away--after all, she was the one that came out with the BS that she wasn't happy.

So what you're going to do is withdraw all your time and attention from her COMPLETELY. As I stated before focus your efforts on other worthwhile endeavors and give your attention to the chicks that show interest to you, instead of being this chick's therapist (let her mom do that). If she calls you up, dont answer,and if you happen to see her and she tries to strike up a conversation with you, your line should be, "Can't talk right now, I got to...."

The point is, you have better things to do with your time and energy, and she lost the privilage of having access to your attention once she pulled that crap with you. At this moment, dont even mess around with committed relationships, just focus on you and making yourself the best you can be.

 

[libre]

You're not her Dr.Phil!

You are not her therapist. Let her or her mother work out her problems if she has any. Do not listen to this girl's mother!

You will only be drawn into her problems if she has any. Also, this girl does not want your "helping" hand or your shoulder to cry on, why would you want to impose it on her?

Also, who is to say that the girl has any problems? Her mother like any woman wants to make a «psychological therapy» out of her daughter's case. Let the mother work out her own issues! Tell the mother that you do not want to be a Dr.Phil to her daughter.

Do not give the girl the time of day anymore. Move on and find other friends if this what you need. Who knows if in 10 months time it will be healthy to renew a «friendship» with her at that moment?

You sound like a healthy young man. Move on and continue to have fun.

 

[Ouzo]

Originally posted by Nightwing
Glad to hear that you're kicking her to the curb.

If I were you, I wouldn't even give her the honor of being "just friends" with you. Like I stated before, don't be the fvcking nice guy.

Remember the time and attention you gave to her was not a right, it was a privilage which she threw away--after all, she was the one that came out with the BS that she wasn't happy.

So what you're going to do is withdraw all your time and attention from her COMPLETELY. As I stated before focus your efforts on other worthwhile endeavors and give your attention to the chicks that show interest to you, instead of being this chick's therapist (let her mom do that). If she calls you up, dont answer,and if you happen to see her and she tries to strike up a conversation with you, your line should be, "Can't talk right now, I got to...."

The point is, you have better things to do with your time and energy, and she lost the privilage of having access to your attention once she pulled that crap with you. At this moment, dont even mess around with committed relationships, just focus on you and making yourself the best you can be.

Thanks for this post. I needed it.

I will listen to it, don't you worry. I was going to write a letter because to let her know I want to be friends ...but come to think of it she doesn't deserve it. Its her problem she is like that, not mine.

And to the other guy who said I might be in the need of friends ...thats not the case hehe. I've got more friends than anyone I know but I just wanted to still see her but flag, I'm finished with her.

 

[Bill S. Preston Esq]

Re: You're not her Dr.Phil!

Originally posted by libre
You are not her therapist. Let her or her mother work out her problems if she has any. Do not listen to this girl's mother!

I would follow this advice. Be respectful to her mom but don't try to go back to her to try and get back together.

 

[Black_Italian]

Is the mum HOT? if so Have sex with her.

Ninja out

 

[Ouzo]

Re: Re: You're not her Dr.Phil!

Originally posted by Bill S. Preston Esq
I would follow this advice. Be respectful to her mom but don't try to go back to her to try and get back together.

Yer I know bro. The point is I don't want to be back with her. I got A LOT on my plate at the moment and I don't want a girlfriend. I never did in the first place and I told her that but we in the end decided to get together.

But regardless, I will tell her mother that I don't think it's a good idea to get involved. If she wants to talk she can always contact me but until then I don't plan on contacting her.

 

[benassi]

I don't know if it was said bro, but if you were happy dude, stick with her, she was just scared of losing you, maybe she had pms before her period and her hormones were messing with her head. She's porbably close with her mom and her mom knows she wants you but shes scared, scared of something. I think you should go out there & get her back, sometimes things work out man for the better. When you can't count the amount of girls you have on the palm of your hand with your fingers and toes, it gets bad, i'm telling you from experience. Do the right thing, in the end we all want LTR's and maybe she's the girl you need dawgss.. give it a try, don't regret it, been there done that.

 

[Ouzo]

Originally posted by benassi
I don't know if it was said bro, but if you were happy dude, stick with her, she was just scared of losing you, maybe she had pms before her period and her hormones were messing with her head. She's porbably close with her mom and her mom knows she wants you but shes scared, scared of something. I think you should go out there & get her back, sometimes things work out man for the better. When you can't count the amount of girls you have on the palm of your hand with your fingers and toes, it gets bad, i'm telling you from experience. Do the right thing, in the end we all want LTR's and maybe she's the girl you need dawgss.. give it a try, don't regret it, been there done that.

I know where you are coming from but the thing is I asked her what was wrong and she said she didn't know. So I said whats happening with us and she said she didnt know. So I said fine and basically ended it.

Dude she is the type of person to come back and tell me if she wants me. I know she doesn't. Thats why I'm not going to get her.

Her mum and her aren't really close and everytime her mum talks to her about me she gets all ****ty with her mum. I'm letting it blow over. Her mum is trying to make her talk to me ...but that was not my request.

I am staying out of it. If she calls up and wants a chat, I'll give her one. But I'm not chasing her. I'm not in the mood for that.

I don't want her back. But I don't want to lose her as a friend. If you can see where I'm going.

EDIT: Yes, she was on her period as well. But regardless, she wasn't happy. She's the one missing out.

The funny thing is she gave me a nice big hickey earlier in the night. It was a great way to contradict the night ha ha. The funny thing is she also brought me a CD 4-5 days earlier ...god how womans minds can change - thats why I don't plan on figuring them out.