wow..bpd ex claims roofie an rape

[mrgoodstuff]

I feel for you man I'm going through some bpd ex **** myself,there really is no winning with them,was doing fwb with mine after break up,she comes over and acts lovey,sleeps with me then less then 4 days later is in the arms of another guy,it should be burning my soul but from dealing with her so long there's honestly not much left and I almost feel reliefed she is,as I'm sure you know the disorder always wins always.

I understand when you say "relieved" you actually mean "relieved". Be thankful. If she has stuff at your place offer to move it over to her new paramours home.

 

[xstang77]

I threw most of the remainder of it away when I saw the original pics,she's recently uploaded more,either to spite me or has completely moved on and forgot me,I think one of my strongest weapons at this point is remain nc

 

[Julian]

You have been a member since 2003; 13 years . You should know better.

You would think right? How could I know better when I never experienced it though? I used to be the guy on here saying guys who fall for BPD women are lames and that BPD is just a female running you because you are beta etc...then I met a BPD. Up until this point in my life I had never encountered a BPD woman in a relationship on this level.



Some closing thoughts here:

Be careful who you fall for. I definitely should have followed my gut, but at the time I was in a tough spot in my life and it was a perfect storm...a recipe for disaster.

Im lucky compared to alot of guys out there. I associate that with help from God, my own personal level of alpha, and the fact my BPD ex, while emotional and very unstable... isnt sadistic like some of these slores can be.

In the end my bpd ex has been clinically diagnosed finally, is self aware, has admitted to me alot of her sins, blames herself for the majority of the problems we had and knows she lost a good catch. She's told me she realizes shes a fk up and its hard for her to control and blabla etcetc. You get the idea. Basically she hasnt been a psycho at all about this breakup. All I can do is pray that continues. Ive gone NC. She still texts me sporadically now but I dont feel the need to reply.

Like you guys said, its been a "relief"..a weight off of my shoulders. My soul feels a bit lighter, albeit saddened by having dealt with all this. But at the same time in the grand scheme of things it was a good learning experience if anything. Would I do it again? Lol..knowing what I know now, no I wouldnt. I just have to think of the crazy drunk rages she had and the self harm.

 

[xstang77]

Honestly I should have kicked her to the curb after she left the first time and broke off our engagement (yup I was that sucker) the negative thoughts help,she's very low functioning,10 jobs in 2 years horrible credit and honestly seeing her with that guy just made her look ugly to me lol, don't get me wrong I'll probably still hit it if I get to that point of despair. I agree it's better for them to leave them alone to like mentioned,but that only does so much,there bed never goes cold I mean look at mine second guy in a month,people are just naive and her friends just continue to support her. Anyways sorry to hijack your thread.