mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I understand when you say "relieved" you actually mean "relieved". Be thankful. If she has stuff at your place offer to move it over to her new paramours home.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wow..bpd ex claims roofie an rape
- Thread starter Julian
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
xstang77
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I threw most of the remainder of it away when I saw the original pics,she's recently uploaded more,either to spite me or has completely moved on and forgot me,I think one of my strongest weapons at this point is remain nc
You would think right? How could I know better when I never experienced it though? I used to be the guy on here saying guys who fall for BPD women are lames and that BPD is just a female running you because you are beta etc...then I met a BPD. Up until this point in my life I had never encountered a BPD woman in a relationship on this level.
Some closing thoughts here:
Be careful who you fall for. I definitely should have followed my gut, but at the time I was in a tough spot in my life and it was a perfect storm...a recipe for disaster.
Im lucky compared to alot of guys out there. I associate that with help from God, my own personal level of alpha, and the fact my BPD ex, while emotional and very unstable... isnt sadistic like some of these slores can be.
In the end my bpd ex has been clinically diagnosed finally, is self aware, has admitted to me alot of her sins, blames herself for the majority of the problems we had and knows she lost a good catch. She's told me she realizes shes a fk up and its hard for her to control and blabla etcetc. You get the idea. Basically she hasnt been a psycho at all about this breakup. All I can do is pray that continues. Ive gone NC. She still texts me sporadically now but I dont feel the need to reply.
Like you guys said, its been a "relief"..a weight off of my shoulders. My soul feels a bit lighter, albeit saddened by having dealt with all this. But at the same time in the grand scheme of things it was a good learning experience if anything. Would I do it again? Lol..knowing what I know now, no I wouldnt. I just have to think of the crazy drunk rages she had and the self harm.
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xstang77
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Honestly I should have kicked her to the curb after she left the first time and broke off our engagement (yup I was that sucker) the negative thoughts help,she's very low functioning,10 jobs in 2 years horrible credit and honestly seeing her with that guy just made her look ugly to me lol, don't get me wrong I'll probably still hit it if I get to that point of despair. I agree it's better for them to leave them alone to like mentioned,but that only does so much,there bed never goes cold I mean look at mine second guy in a month,people are just naive and her friends just continue to support her. Anyways sorry to hijack your thread.