"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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would you rather date up or date down?

garruk

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assuming that all girls and guys have a quantifiable number that corresponds to their value.

say you are an 8. would you rather date/LTR a 9 or a 7? the 9 would be more likely to lose interest when a better guy (a 9 or a 10) comes along.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chamber36

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up, of course.
 

Blackmm

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Up. If your game is tight enough, she won't leave you.
 

sexysuave

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I've always dated up... (mainly 9s and "10s").. However, it is true that a lot of these super good looking girls are usually more headaches to deal with. They look good on your arm and all, but usually they come with a lot of headaches and issues.

Then again, I’m sure there are girls that are not all that great looking that have issues as well. I was talking to my brother about this the other day, and told him somewhat jokingly “you know, maybe we should have just settled with some normal, average girls, all these fine women f*cking crazy and always have some issues they dealing with”… and my brother hit me up with a classic response “naaa, then we’d just have some ugly bi*ches who are still crazy” LOL this cracked me up pretty good..

However, I do think that a normal HB8 would probably be a better long term material than some 9s and “10s” that come with their usually issues of a dime. The problem is, that HB8 could also turn out to be a freak show, and then you’re left wondering if you should have kept your 9 or a “10”. From my observation, the happiest guys in LTRs (serioius LTRs, including marriages) are usually with like an HB8 or an HB7, who is more down to earth and enjoys being a wife and making her husband happy. These guys are usually way more relaxed and able to have fun and still follow their passions and what not. Those guys that “struck gold” with the dimepieces, the 9s and “10s”, are usually a little more tense and it usually seems like their wife has the upper hand in a lot of situation.

A lot of this probably comes from those husbands being a little more worried about their drop dead gorgeous wives as they know everyone and their mom (or dad?) is gonna want to hit on them and get a piece of that. They also are probably dealing with a woman who has a certain level of insecurity and issues, as a lot of these women grew up being idolized solely for their looks. So there is always some drama that these guys have to deal with, and these hot wives are usually the ones who are more jealous and freak out if their husbands do anything without “checking in”.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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garruk

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im glad im not the only one dating up. i brought this up becuase the girl i most recently dated (relationship ended in july), was probably the best looking girl ive dated in my entire life.

it was honestly to poont where it was like walking with a trophy sort of thing. at an 4th of july office party, i had my boss's boss, a married guy in his 60s continually making jokes about how i was the office ladies' man.

in any case, this girl was a SUCH a headache to date. she was incredibly sweet but she was hit on sooo much and while she was great for the most part, when i went away on a business trip, i really did not feel safe leaving her.


to respond to blackmm, for the most part i believe what youre saying but its important to remember there are ALWAYS guys with even tighter game and higher value (which why we should always continue to improve).
 
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