You do not 'pursue' her. As she rejected you, allow her to do the pursuing, for now and forever.
Nor should you be 'infatuated', with anyone. Ever.
Sure you took up lifting because she rejected you. But that made you a better person (less fat). You wont realise it, but you didn't do it for her; subconsciously you did it for yourself, because you want
yourself to
have her. This was practically the correct way to go about things. However, change your
conscious mindset from having done it for her, to having done it for
yourself.
Always remember the philosophy of doing something for yourself, rather than to impress others. Others will be impressed, or they wont, regardless of what you do.
To be honest you needed to lose the 15% anyway. Very well done
