"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would you pursue a girl who once rejected you, but now wants you?

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She didn't like me when i was 25% bodyfat, she is showing interest in me now cos im 10% bf with decent facial aesthetics.What to do? I'm infatuated with her, but her rejection was the reason why i took up lifting in the first place.she is like 8/10 very beautiful.But I think her previous rejections will make me look like a chump if i still go after her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Between_The_Lines

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maamu said:
She didn't like me when i was 25% bodyfat, she is showing interest in me now cos im 10% bf with decent facial aesthetics.What to do? I'm infatuated with her, but her rejection was the reason why i took up lifting in the first place.she is like 8/10 very beautiful.But I think her previous rejections will make me look like a chump if i still go after her.
That right there in bold is the reason why I'd discourage you from going after this one. You've gone to the length of doing whatever it takes to get this one particular girl. I'm afraid to ask, but what else would you be willing to do if sculpting your body to perfection isn't enough for her? You're approaching this one as her little lapdog, albeit a very muscular, chiseled one. Figure out what YOU really want out of life, pursuit THAT furiously, and then put yourself back out in the market.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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You do not 'pursue' her. As she rejected you, allow her to do the pursuing, for now and forever.

Nor should you be 'infatuated', with anyone. Ever.

Sure you took up lifting because she rejected you. But that made you a better person (less fat). You wont realise it, but you didn't do it for her; subconsciously you did it for yourself, because you want yourself to have her. This was practically the correct way to go about things. However, change your conscious mindset from having done it for her, to having done it for yourself.

Always remember the philosophy of doing something for yourself, rather than to impress others. Others will be impressed, or they wont, regardless of what you do.

To be honest you needed to lose the 15% anyway. Very well done :up:
 

El Payaso

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She should be doing the pursuing while you should just sit back, laugh and watch in amusement.
 

salinechow

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Dude, Well Done! Just congrats for getting off your as$ and bettering yourself.

If I had any advice it would be to wait until you have a few more plates spinning and then give it a try. If you try while she is a "oneitis" you'll have a weaker frame and could easily get derailed.

P.S I have a similiar situation right now and my advice comes from my own plan that I have employed learning from this site.

“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is "timing"
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.”
― Fulton J. Sheen
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bingo-Player

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ive had a similar experience in the past and to be honest if you just sit back and relax you can really have some fun with her

ive also been on the flip side where I've rejected a chick in the past and suddenly she's really pulled herself together and gone from like a 6 - 8

they never forget that initial rejection so why should you
 

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Simple answer. Nope. Tell her to fvck off if she continues to pursue you.
 

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I don't think you should be upset about the fact that she was not attracted to you when you were fat. We all know girls that we would consider banging if they lost some weight. Women think the same way. However, if you are "infatuated" with her, that alone it good enough reason NOT to pursue.
 

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Hey man, you just lost a sh!t ton of weight, and if she is attracted to you now then why not try to tap that pvssy at least one time, what can it hurt? Simply use your normal game, she is nothing special so do not put her on a pedestal. If nothing comes of it, at least you will not regret it on your death bed. And if you do end up tapping it, well then there you go. Lose that infatuation and tap it. She may end up being some super crazy b!tch that you will run from after hitting it once.
 

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Between_The_Lines said:
That right there in bold is the reason why I'd discourage you from going after this one. You've gone to the length of doing whatever it takes to get this one particular girl. I'm afraid to ask, but what else would you be willing to do if sculpting your body to perfection isn't enough for her? You're approaching this one as her little lapdog, albeit a very muscular, chiseled one. Figure out what YOU really want out of life, pursuit THAT furiously, and then put yourself back out in the market.
I disagree. What he wrote implies that the rejection inspired him to better himself by working out. It doesn't sound like he was doing it to get her. He was doing it (at least I hope) for himself. I think that is admirable and I think it is very far from behavior that would categorize him as her "lap dog"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There is what I would do and there is what I SHOULD do.

"Back then they didn't want me, now I'm hot they all on me" - Galatians 5:22

"Ye have heard that it hath been said, I shall stall you, as you hath stalled thee; and woe to her who tries to call thee, for I shall dog her as she hath dogged thee" - Isaiah 56:1
 

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I don't think that it's bad that the O.P. possibly lost his weight to get the girl. I mean, it's obviously better if he did it for himself, but if the chick inspired him to workout and lose 15% body fat I don't see where the problem is!!!

EDIT: I'm starting to believe that some people here DO NOT WANT to watch others getting laid. "NEXT" is the default answer for almost any kind of post!!
 
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