"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would you marry again?

KarmaSutra

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Isn't that the sole reason why we come here? To recognize what we will and, more importantly, will not settle for? I seem to be in the extreme minority when it comes to being in a wonderful relationship with Mrs. K and it's quite disheartnening.

I am no better than any brother who comes here. However, I do take solace in the fact that I've worked damned hard to find out who I truly am and what boundaries I will never step over or duck under. This is what keeps her intrigued because she knows without a doubt that I am a man who stands by the virtue of his own power. A man who understands and accepts the responsibility for his life and the direction it goes.

I wish there were more of us than not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My married friend and I had an interesting discusssion. He's going through a bitter divorce and is full of fear about his financial future. He's barely scraping by and has had to make a lot of sacrifices to make ends meet. Meanwhile, his future ex is driving a new vehicle, shopping til she's dropping and gorging at the finer restaurants. She knows she's got him by the kahunas and has no problems making ends meet on his dime.

We reached the conclusion that divorce was created for women to move on with their lives with as little inconvenience to them while putting the man in a financial straight-jacket which could take decades to take off. He's bitter and I don't blame him.

These days a man has to be very careful since one bad move could cause a life time of consequences.
 

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I am open to the possibility of getting married. I will only ever get married once and I'll be very choosey in my wife if I ever do get married. I will never seriously date a women who's ever been divorced. I tried it once and will never do it again, there is a reason she's been divorced.
 
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