would you make a girl with ons past a GF?

[Capt.America]

im deciding on making a girl my girlfriend because shes cool. everything I ever wanted ,,,,but this is she admitted she had a ONS a year ago . would u guys make a girl that had a ONS stand before an exclusive girlfriend?

 

[asa_don]

lots of girls have had a ons before, some you won't even know about, some girls that you think wouldn't would, this girl is telling you that. why didn't she have a ons with you?

 

[Capt.America]

idk so im assuming you wouldn't make her your gf

 

[asa_don]

idk so im assuming you wouldn't make her your gf

why is she telling you about it? did you ask her? does it bother you that she hooked up with some random dude?

most girls have hooked up or had fwb so its nothing new, as long as there is no red flags then you are ok.

how long did it take for you to bang her?

 

[pyros]

LOL

see this, in my experience if a girl admits something like having done a ONS...mark my words...she did not have just one, she probably had a few and she probably did some other stuff that she has not told you yet, or will never do. THink about it.

Yes, many girls have had ONS, but I would be very cautious and suspicious about a girl that admits it, because, as I said, it could be just the top of the iceberg...

 

[gravityeyelids]

I would anticipate that nearly every girl who has slept with more than a few guys has had a ONS. Virtually every girl who went through college and partied (who didn;t remain a virgin) likely had a ONS. Don't worry about it.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Nawalt

 

[devilkingx2]

it's no big deal, don't worry about it

not unless she admits to having 40 ONSs or something.

 

[asa_don]

theres a reason shes comfortable enough to confide this in you. take it as a good sign

i disagree, she told him because she wants to make him feel inferior, its a power trip so she has something over him to keep him in check, now he is wondering why she didn't fvck him the first night, he will feel the other guy is better than him, he is already asking questions about it here so she did her job.

Why not just keep her for fvking and go with a younger girl who hasn't done the c0ck carousel thing?

don't you see the fallacy in your comment? a younger girl? most younger girls are doing the c0ck carousel thing, the only reason the op knows is because she told him, if she didn't tell him he wouldn't even know about it. same with most girls, if they don't tell you about it, you're never going to know.

This is one way to look at it. However, there is no way to know this by the limited information the OP has given

it doesn't matter, the fact that she told him is what matters, if she didn't want him to know she wouldn't have said anything, now the op is wondering about it, she has established her value over him from the start, mission accomplished.

The only reason she is wondering about it is because of this site: "any woman who has a ONS is a slut." At the same time: "If a girl doesn't sleep with you on the first night, it's because you fvcked up somehow and/or she's got another guy waiting for her at home to plug up all three of her holes" Hypocritical statements at every turn.

I find myself giving the benefit of the doubt in these situations, what are her current actions....with me. My paradigm here: She's being open and honest with me. <-----foundation for a strong, healthy relationship. Versus: her lying to you. <----no explanation needed.

Don't push away a good chick because of jaded insecure thoughts: "She fvcked another guy on the first date but not me!!! That guy must be better than me." <-----insecure. Versus: "We went the relationship path......waited a few dates before having sex, I'm glad we went that way, and it wasn't just a ONS." <-----secure.

learn how to read and not add your own sh!t to what i said.

i said it's no big deal if she's fvcked other guys on the same night

the op is concerned because he is asking for advice, obviously it bothers him, that's why he is posting, i was telling him why she told him about her ons

women don't tell men with high value about her previous one night stands, she is fvcking him on the one night stand.

who said to push her away?

a good chick? you don't know anything about her.

get in tune with the game before you add your own bvllsh!t analysis and assumptions to it.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

i disagree, she told him because she wants to make him feel inferior, its a power trip so she has something over him to keep him in check, now he is wondering why she didn't fvck him the first night, he will feel the other guy is better than him, he is already asking questions about it here so she did her job.

This is one way to look at it. However, there is no way to know this by the limited information the OP has given. Did she say it when they were fighting? If so, then it's a possibility. Or were they laying in bed and talking about past relationships (as much as this is frowned upon, it does happen). I would agree with Midnight 99.99% on this one. She may be confiding in him as a preemptive measure. i.e. laying the cards on the table before the relationship really takes off.

Also, if the OP is playing things right in the relationship up to this point, her perspective, when she told him that, should be: "I hope he doesn't think I'm a slut for telling him this". Not: "I'm going to show him". If the latter is what she is thinking, then OP has shown some major beta tendencies up to this point in the relationship.

it doesn't matter, the fact that she told him is what matters, if she didn't want him to know she wouldn't have said anything, now the op is wondering about it, she has established her value over him from the start, mission accomplished.

The only reason she is wondering about it is because of this site: "any woman who has a ONS is a slut." At the same time: "If a girl doesn't sleep with you on the first night, it's because you fvcked up somehow and/or she's got another guy waiting for her at home to plug up all three of her holes" Hypocritical statements at every turn.

I find myself giving the benefit of the doubt in these situations, what are her current actions....with me. My paradigm here: She's being open and honest with me. <-----foundation for a strong, healthy relationship. Versus: her lying to you. <----no explanation needed.

Don't push away a good chick because of jaded insecure thoughts: "She fvcked another guy on the first date but not me!!! That guy must be better than me." <-----insecure. Versus: "We went the relationship path......waited a few dates before having sex, I'm glad we went that way, and it wasn't just a ONS." <-----secure.