"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would you like a challenge? NUMBERS! NUMBERS! NUMBERS!

collalife

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This is for the more seasoned don juans who got some notches on they belt and a sense of social intelligence.


I am considering a challenge and thread for next tues and until indefinite.


How about you and I embark on a journey starting this tues or whenever your ready and decide to get a minimum of 1 phone number a day. Yes.

It sounds hard to some and in fact sometimes it is. It will be a test of your

flexibility and happy go getter attitude. You have to bounce back and pull

numbers day in and day out and when its raining or when its sunny or when

your out with friends, when your alone, when your drunk, when your sober,

hell if you dressed like a idiot or like a true mack. This thread will be the place

where you share your war stories. Hell share what happen, how you felt, where you were,

the inner chatter in your mind, who was with you, what was said, and the overall response.

But I set some guidelines for the first 2-3 week ( the training wheels stage) then they are void and you must complete it regardless and post and if you dont complete it hell put up your worst crash and burn and we can laugh about it.

Remember dude its just a girl. We all **** and eat through the same holes.


1) Approach at least 5 women or get 1 number(females only)
2)They can be girls you wanna date or just girls you wanna **** or just friends of friends.
3)You can use friends of friends to help you get numbers or hell even set it up where you do no talking.

But after first week:

1 number and gotta be something you at least would **** or pass to your homie better yet be a connector to hotter chicks. Theres gotta be a inkling of fear involved otherwise your cheating yourself and this thread with your post.


The post guideline is post whenever you have time and probably once a week. Post your stats and your report and all the feelings, emotions, triumphs, losses, wins, and overall experience.

Stats example:

9/14/2012-9/21/2012

4 numbers
20 approaches

Then you post your 1-2 juicest reports and all the trimmings.


Ok until then. Peace.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So every week approach 5 girls and get at least 1 number ? Hey man count me in this sounds pretty dope. Reply to this thread with the stats? Ill start this monday, since thatll be when im back on campus.
 

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Yep at least five girls and or at least 1 number and your day is accomplished. By the end of the week you should have at least seven numbers or 35 approaches.

The killer thing about this is after a while lets just say you suck at first eventually you will get good and you wont need 35 approaches. Hell you might get 7 out 20 a week then 7 out of 14 and so on.

Stats officially start next week. I am gonna start next week in junction with my bootcamp but I advise whenever someone is ready to carry their balls with them to start this challenge. I will adjust it accordingly eventually to meet peoples needs. For now go out there and approach.

Also I want people to highlight college approaches and odd places approaches since people act like you cant approach in certain places we got to destroy that myth asap.
 

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So unfortunately Ive been away for a while.


My stats are like 10 approaches for the past 2 weeks.

And the no number attempts and or numbers.


I will bring my numbers up. I havent done much and been going thru some kind of repression,depression. I am currently stuck on 4th week and havent recently

approached women I really wanted to date. I avoid drugs and alcohol and try to be sober as hell to be conditioned well to all the stimuli of the approach. I figure I will follow my program and get 21-30 approaches this week.

Peace until then.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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