Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would you let a girl drive your car?

PhatE1vis

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Here's a somewhat frivolous question for a Friday afternoon...would you let a girl drive your car if she asked?

I just got a nice-ish car - pretty and fast - and this friend/sometime hook-up of mine asked if she could drive it. On the one hand, it would be pretty hot to see her drive. On the other, we're talking about my new baby!

My conditions will be short skirt and high heels.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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romangod

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Nope.


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Gangster Of Love

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If you like her, as in you enjoy her company, and YOU ACTUALLY FEEL LIKE LETTING HER DRIVE IT, THEN LET HER DRIVE IT. Don't worry about all these self-imposed rules and loosen up a little. Just let her drive it for a little bit, and yes, while you are in the passenger seat. Don't let her take it for a drive, or borrw it.

It is already bad enough that there is this stereotype about guys who reffer to their car as "their baby" to compensating for other things lacking. As a man, secure in himself, and it sounds like you are in a happy place, DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, even if it goes against all "the rules" that you have learned/heard.

You already have the right idea, you set the conditions. Make her "earn it", even if you were gonna give in to her request to begin with. It will raise the perceived value. Let her bring it up again, then ask her "If I can do that for you, what will you do for me?". Make her cook for you, or do something that takes effort.

You can totally milk this one for a whole lot more if you do this than you would by just giving in or just saying no.
 

Rollo Tomassi

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Gangster Of Love said:
It is already bad enough that there is this stereotype about guys who reffer to their car as "their baby" to compensating for other things lacking.
Isn't it interesting how just about anything that distracts a man's attention away from a woman is always refered to by women as 'infantile', 'selfish' 'ego-affirming' or 'compensating for something' with regards to men? Unless you can confirm that a guy is actually compensating for something after showering with him at the gym, all this amounts to is another shaming tactic that men will ignorantly pick up and parrot back. Take your opponent's strength and turn it into a weakness.

For every guy who calls his car or his bike "his baby" there's a woman doing the same with a little dog or something comparable and no one calls her 'infantile' or points at her stereotype.

Mrs. Tomassi asked me to drive her car when we were dating, she expected my to be the man and direct the course of our travel. She's perfectly capable of driving herself anywhere, but in 11.5 years of marriage the last time I can remember my wife driving our car when we were together was when I had my wisdom teeth pulled and I was high on morphine. I'm not a car guy (my brother is though). I've driven mostly trucks and 4Runners my whole life. I owned a muscle car when I was 20, but it was because my brother got me interested in bracket racing back then and I loved Mopar. That said, I never called my car "my baby" and of all the car people I've known by way of my brother, none of them have either. Back in October I bought a new Chrysler 300 and my wife has yet to sit in the driver's seat - and not because I'm an A-Hole or compensating for anything.

:D
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gangster Of Love

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That's an entire different topic for another thread. Agree with you to some degree, althought that is not what I was referring to. We've both seen guys that do take this whole "my car is my baby" to an extreme, and you right away see that there's still emptiness.

I am all for having your own things to be passionate about. There is always some truth to stereotypes. Again, another issue all together. To stay on topic here, IF HE WANTS TO LET HER DRIVE IT, THEN HE SHOULD DO WHAT HE WANTS TO DO.

You haven't let her drive it BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO. Correct? Or is it because it would go against your priciple, etc.? I myself have been a victim of being too rigid and "stickler" to the rules, yet lost many opportunities because I forget to have fun and deviate from "rules" etc.

What I've found is that once I was able to do what I wanted, when I wanted, because of my choice, and I was ok with it, regardless of how it might go against one of my "rules", I no longer was imprisioned and comfused. Gut feeling will get you far sometimes, once you have developed good intuition.
 

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Does she have car insurance that would cover your car in case she wrecked it?

Does she have a valid SDL? If not, they are going to impound the car if she gets pulled over driving it and guess who is most likely going to pay the impound fee.
 

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I have never driven a car that wasn't a clutch and only dated one girl (not an American at that...a Norwegian) who could drive a clutch. Yes I let her drive it, but not often.
 

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PhatE1vis said:
would you let a girl drive your car if she asked?
Yes if I know 100% for certain that she is the type that will pay for every dent or bump the car suffers while in her possession including paying the total cost if she crushes the car beyond repairs and not use the excuse "that since we are in a relationship, I should forgive her and pay out of my own pocket".

Unfortunately I have yet to meet such a woman but if I do meet her, I might as well marry her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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