Last year i got out of my bpd relationship after neearly 2 years of hell!! Anyways that nearly killed me and i needed a time out from it all but slowly getting back in the game. Anyway i meet a hot blonde, It was her who asked for my number, i didnt even give it a thought to ask, but she initiated it. Anyways she was kind of vague and hard to get anything from her as to if we would see each ither again etc...but she had asked me to add her on facebook and being i closed my account because i blocked everything the ex bpd nutcase could check up on or contact me through i decided to open new account for this chick.
I messaged her after about 2 weeks as we hadnt seen each other again and said it was nice to meet you when we did and good luck with whatever you choose to do in life. The following day i get a text saying she read my fbook message and that it was my choice not hers and thank you.....we start talking again.....
Again very difficult to arrange anything and she would answer the next day sometimes etc which I just kinda got used to. So i see her a few times, she declares her love for me, then denies it.....then see her again and she does love me again! Then explains she left her long term boyfriend for me after the first meet, and that she wants me in her life. I say this is okay and to be honest went a bit soft on this chick. We text quite a lot and if i did get to spend time with her we always had sex. I kinda feel this made her feel validated.
And i forgot to mention that after a couple of dates she put something in my bathroom bin and found condom packets and went mad, threw me on the bed, laid me...then got up to get dressed with the hump and started getting dressed and said " i have to go now ". wouldnt tell me why until i lost my temper and smashed my phone against the wall and then pointed out the packet and wanted to know how many women i had that week. My answer " none " told her i was disgusted by her claims and to just go.....she cried and apologised and said she " can't trust " and that she would try to change for me!!??
Anyways she blew a couple of dates off one week but then see me again on the sunday when we had sex because " she wanted to " again as i said thats not why she was here. Then on the monday she texts and im answering then silence again. she went to work and finished at 10pm....i wait til 1am then just go to bed. following day i get text which i ignore and she texts 2 or 3 times " your quiet " " why are you not answering baby, are you okay ".
I text late at night saying i wont put up with her texting games anymore and to forget it.....later i get text "sorry baby im working but it is your choice i guess
".
i tell her she dont want to be with me and im sick of the games, she texts " you have to believe me baby, i just want you " .....i go to bed.
following day..text, " baby i have to go hospital and they want to keep me in "
i say i will visit her and my reply " i do not want you to visit me out of pity "
so i say its not pity and she said she will let me know.
didnt hear for couple of days so on the friday i facebook message and say " not talking to me now " later that night i get a text " have to rethink everything " so i ask what and i get no response.
a week and no text but all week on fbook has been posting things about me
like " you should say ill try rather than i promise it hurts less "
and " no i am not rihanna and i do not love your lies "
Everyone i know thinks she has fella, but there is NO proof of that on any of her facebook....none at all( She is 22 and asked me on there straight away so i guess if she was in a relationship he would definitely be on there ). And she had posted stuff about me on there in a subtle way which friends had commented on saying they knew what she meant etc....so if she had fella surely he would question this or a friend of his would. She also used youtube vids to get messages across with song titles etc.
So what i done was......close my fbook and delete her number.....have not heard anything for a week and a day now, but im guessing with the facebook digs, she was trying to get me to react and start begging her back...
i forget to mention she had lost her father and had major trust issues.
So right now im no contact and im not sure if she knows i deleted my fbook. I decided even though she was hot she had no right to give me the run around, being she initiated us being together, and she also asked us to go on holiday together after about 2 weeks together....Im thinking if she contacts to be vague and let it go.....what you guys reckon?? Not sure if my radar is way off after the bpd nightmare or if this one has issues to??
I messaged her after about 2 weeks as we hadnt seen each other again and said it was nice to meet you when we did and good luck with whatever you choose to do in life. The following day i get a text saying she read my fbook message and that it was my choice not hers and thank you.....we start talking again.....
Again very difficult to arrange anything and she would answer the next day sometimes etc which I just kinda got used to. So i see her a few times, she declares her love for me, then denies it.....then see her again and she does love me again! Then explains she left her long term boyfriend for me after the first meet, and that she wants me in her life. I say this is okay and to be honest went a bit soft on this chick. We text quite a lot and if i did get to spend time with her we always had sex. I kinda feel this made her feel validated.
And i forgot to mention that after a couple of dates she put something in my bathroom bin and found condom packets and went mad, threw me on the bed, laid me...then got up to get dressed with the hump and started getting dressed and said " i have to go now ". wouldnt tell me why until i lost my temper and smashed my phone against the wall and then pointed out the packet and wanted to know how many women i had that week. My answer " none " told her i was disgusted by her claims and to just go.....she cried and apologised and said she " can't trust " and that she would try to change for me!!??
Anyways she blew a couple of dates off one week but then see me again on the sunday when we had sex because " she wanted to " again as i said thats not why she was here. Then on the monday she texts and im answering then silence again. she went to work and finished at 10pm....i wait til 1am then just go to bed. following day i get text which i ignore and she texts 2 or 3 times " your quiet " " why are you not answering baby, are you okay ".
I text late at night saying i wont put up with her texting games anymore and to forget it.....later i get text "sorry baby im working but it is your choice i guess
".i tell her she dont want to be with me and im sick of the games, she texts " you have to believe me baby, i just want you " .....i go to bed.
following day..text, " baby i have to go hospital and they want to keep me in "
i say i will visit her and my reply " i do not want you to visit me out of pity "
so i say its not pity and she said she will let me know.
didnt hear for couple of days so on the friday i facebook message and say " not talking to me now " later that night i get a text " have to rethink everything " so i ask what and i get no response.
a week and no text but all week on fbook has been posting things about me
like " you should say ill try rather than i promise it hurts less "
and " no i am not rihanna and i do not love your lies "
Everyone i know thinks she has fella, but there is NO proof of that on any of her facebook....none at all( She is 22 and asked me on there straight away so i guess if she was in a relationship he would definitely be on there ). And she had posted stuff about me on there in a subtle way which friends had commented on saying they knew what she meant etc....so if she had fella surely he would question this or a friend of his would. She also used youtube vids to get messages across with song titles etc.
So what i done was......close my fbook and delete her number.....have not heard anything for a week and a day now, but im guessing with the facebook digs, she was trying to get me to react and start begging her back...
i forget to mention she had lost her father and had major trust issues.
So right now im no contact and im not sure if she knows i deleted my fbook. I decided even though she was hot she had no right to give me the run around, being she initiated us being together, and she also asked us to go on holiday together after about 2 weeks together....Im thinking if she contacts to be vague and let it go.....what you guys reckon?? Not sure if my radar is way off after the bpd nightmare or if this one has issues to??
