"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Would you do a LTR with a"nice woman"?

jhonny9546

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 17, 2024
Messages
2,613
Reaction score
549
Location
Italy
Hi guys, knew a new womam: She’s a very traditional, stay-at-home type of woman. Big on family unity (though with narcissistic and, in my view, toxic old dynamics). She’s the kind of woman who puts a lot of effort into keeping the house clean, cooking, taking care of her nieces and nephews (her sister’s kids), cooking for the whole family, and being involved in everyone’s lives.
Her father is a workaholic and a narcissist, and she often complains that he hasn’t really been present in her life.

This kind of woman often ends up always wanting something new. I’ve seen examples where children become a sort of “project", something to focus on and define their purpose. Social integration (football, church groups, school), fear of falling behind (for example, being a couple without kids), fear of family judgment, and copying what their mother and grandparents did all seem to play a role.

In general, how many women like this have you met in your life?
Based on your experience, which of the three buckets (https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-three-buckets.285580/#post-3182847) would you put her in?

The fact that she’s so devoted to others may come from being a “nice girl” who has never really worked on herself. She might be filling her inner void by helping others (you, the kids, her family), and there tends to be a lot of drama. These women are often very anxious and dramatic, struggling with independence and have abandonment issues.
These are the kind of women who might suit men who work 12 hours a day and only see them for one or two hours in the evening to have dinner, spend a bit of time with the kids, and have sex. Nothing more, really. Try spending four or five hours, or a whole day, together, and you’re in trouble.

Well, if you’re mature enough like me and you’re not looking for a str or a ons, then you’d probably put her in bucket number two.
I’d be curious to hear what kind of patterns or “alternatives” you’ve experienced with women like this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top