"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Would you do a LTR with a"nice woman"?

jhonny9546

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Hi guys, knew a new womam: She’s a very traditional, stay-at-home type of woman. Big on family unity (though with narcissistic and, in my view, toxic old dynamics). She’s the kind of woman who puts a lot of effort into keeping the house clean, cooking, taking care of her nieces and nephews (her sister’s kids), cooking for the whole family, and being involved in everyone’s lives.
Her father is a workaholic and a narcissist, and she often complains that he hasn’t really been present in her life.

This kind of woman often ends up always wanting something new. I’ve seen examples where children become a sort of “project", something to focus on and define their purpose. Social integration (football, church groups, school), fear of falling behind (for example, being a couple without kids), fear of family judgment, and copying what their mother and grandparents did all seem to play a role.

In general, how many women like this have you met in your life?
Based on your experience, which of the three buckets (https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-three-buckets.285580/#post-3182847) would you put her in?

The fact that she’s so devoted to others may come from being a “nice girl” who has never really worked on herself. She might be filling her inner void by helping others (you, the kids, her family), and there tends to be a lot of drama. These women are often very anxious and dramatic, struggling with independence and have abandonment issues.
These are the kind of women who might suit men who work 12 hours a day and only see them for one or two hours in the evening to have dinner, spend a bit of time with the kids, and have sex. Nothing more, really. Try spending four or five hours, or a whole day, together, and you’re in trouble.

Well, if you’re mature enough like me and you’re not looking for a str or a ons, then you’d probably put her in bucket number two.
I’d be curious to hear what kind of patterns or “alternatives” you’ve experienced with women like this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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