"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Would you ditch your old friends?

Unbridled_Phoenix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2009
Messages
677
Reaction score
25
Gents,

In my self-improvement journey, I am encountering resistance from places I never thought of. Upon making the conscious effort to improve yourself and your life, for how many of you did it become necessary to walk away from old friends?

Verily, in this day and age, is a CONSCIOUS man a rare commodity. It really seems that the vast majority of people sleepwalk their way through life in a retarded stupor, making the same mistakes over and over again, never learning, never growing. So comfortable in that warm blanket of conformity and shared mediocrity, yet something about the CONSCIOUS man rubs them the wrong way. One of these does not look like the other ones...

The path of the self-determinate man can be a lonely one. As it should be. The greatest comfort and fellowship will always be found in the middle of a flock of sheep moving in the same direction (nowhere). I do know fellowship, but it is a fleeting feeling for me. Maybe that's the perfect medium.

Your thoughts on the people you've left behind on your journey?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Don Israel

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2009
Messages
134
Reaction score
0
Location
Montreal, CA
Unless you have a friend that you had a solid connection with, that lasted throughout life-changing events, or had freinds that you knew very well for over 20 years, you should always be ready to drop friends that don't benefit you and vice-versa.


Don't get me wrong, you can always have them on your facebook ''freinds list' , but why waste your time with people that you no longer connect with?

The word to remember is : OLD. Why? because you are a new you. So avoid anything OLD when it comes to your current circle of real friends.
There is a difference in being a friend, and being and acquaintance. I hate to say this, but who cares : categorize your so-called friends!

-----------------------------------------------------------------

Who's helping you in you everyday life? Who's there to pat you on a shoulder and encourage you when you down? THOSE ARE YOUR FRIENDS

Who's gonna point out little mistakes you make jokes about it? Who's gonna ask you questions about your financial situation, when you have never even talked to them of anything on that level since your first met them? THOSE ARE YOUR ACQUAINTANCES.

You have just transformed into a butterfly and you wanna keep hanging with some fvkin caterpillar that doesn't even wanna uplift you or put any effort to building something with you ( business wise or personal-wise) in this game of life?

( I'm not saying that if your of 'higher value' you shouldn't hang with people of 'lower value' btw)
 

zekko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2009
Messages
16,793
Reaction score
10,021
This isn't about women, butI remember an epiphany I had a long while ago when I was in my 20s.
I had certain interests and projects I was working on that were important to me. I also found that I had drifted into this particular social circle.

One day I was sitting in this house with a bunch of guys and we were all drinking beer. Nothing else, just sitting around drinking. And it suddenly struck me, what the heck am I doing? I could be off doing something important to me, something constructive, but instead I'm just sitting around here getting drunk. Which is about all those guys ever did. So I quietly left and went and did something I really wanted to do, to improve myself. And I quickly faded out of that social circle.

Now these weren't really close friends, my very best friends, because I still stay close to them. But if the people you're hanging with are holding you back, absolutely, cut them loose and do what you need to do. You don't have to be rude to them or treat them bad, just do what you want to do.
 

JDA70

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 3, 2007
Messages
274
Reaction score
1
your title is "Would you ditch your old friends?"

I used to be a drug addict so all my friends were druggies.
When I quite I ditched all them eventually.
Now I am loner who doesn't drink, do drugs or smoke.
Honestly... I miss hanging out but I don't miss the bull sh1t.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2009
Messages
677
Reaction score
25
I recall seeing on here, someone said, "I had a teacher who told me that if you have two or three REAL friends in your entire lifetime, you're lucky."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Solomon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 28, 2008
Messages
6,562
Reaction score
4,123
Location
Inside her mind
Interesting I was gonna make this topic myself
I've noticed two of my best friends we have drifted apart
One went to college, got arrogant now he makes a bit of money and thinks he owns the world.
The other was in a relationship which took almost two years of his life, he is busy with school so his focused changed, but he is out of the relationship now.

I look at the social circle I'm in and even people i consider friends are nothing but mere acquaintances. There is one guy who I thought was a friend but truth is he is just a good acquaintance, every time we talk he wants me to "go in" with him on a limo or something crazy money wise which I have no interest in.

Honestly it's rough meeting new people who are genuine and sincere
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2009
Messages
677
Reaction score
25
My *minor* problem in the arena of friends is not lack of genuine and sincere people, it is lack of people with a genuine and sincere WINNERS' mentality. As the Laws of Power state, moods and thoughts are infectious. I just don't know anybody in my age group who thinks like I do. Nobody has any faith anymore, they spin their wheels crying and complaining about what they cannot do.

And I just won't be around that anymore.
 
Top