Would you date, possibly marry, a girl who could possibly die of cancer?

[Poonani Maker]

but from your above post, where you're qualifying her on the surface and are still playing attention games and can't really read her yet, I don't think that's what you guys have

I think you're mixing up the two girls. The "quiet girl" description was about her younger semi-friend. The girl I've helped has no problems talking with me or others.

I don't really Love the gal with cancer, I think. She may think I do, but I don't. I love her as a friend. She knows all this calculus and engineering, but she can't figure me out. Our personalities do lend to each other though, which is why I sense a long-term capability here. She was treating me as if I were her husband while in the car. It was kinda weird, but I liked it, and I've had other girls (my oneitis in particular), do that to me, and I play along with their hypothetical scenarios about children, houses, finances, jobs etc.

But there are several other options. Heck, just today, as I have been grooming this young'un I met ealier in the year, she's just now, as of today, REALLY starting to see who I am, and she's falling for my image. She set herself up to watch me about 5 hours after our initial contact. This was no accident, her positioning herself to see me later. She's so young and predictable. She doesn't realize that I have many, many others ahead of her. She thinks she can just jump out and choose me. Insecure, she must be.

I see so much shallowness. It's a trait in a LOT of church, social women. Many women cannot be deep. This girl with cancer can. She's a deep thinker. She reads at light-speed. That was one of the first things that attracted me to her last August, her reading method. She's always got something to read. I'd probably have smart or "well-instructed" children by her. That's my motivation.

 

[I-tallionStallion]

I would without a doubt...date and/or marry a girl who had cancer that I love. Even if she were to certainly die, I would muster up the strength and enjoy the God given time I have with her. Some can't handle it I'm sure, but I know I could.

If I enjoy just being her friend, then it would be just that.

Poonani Maker, it sounds like you don't have any romantic attachment to this girl.

 

[OzyBoy]

would you marry them? if you really loved them.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I would without a doubt...date and/or marry a girl who had cancer that I love. Even if she were to certainly die, I would muster up the strength and enjoy the God given time I have with her. Some can't handle it I'm sure, but I know I could.

If I enjoy just being her friend, then it would be just that.

Poonani Maker, it sounds like you don't have any romantic attachment to this girl.

You're right I don't, I-tallionStallion. You wanna know why? Because in her academic persuits, she's taken the road less travelled by women, and staged the academic war against MEN in the studies she chose. Her mission up unto this point, has been to one-up men scholastically in Biomedical Engineering at a prestigious university for that. She was the Only woman in her advanced placement. 9 guys and just her.

Despite all that, I think she loves me as a friend, and RESPECTS me as a non-academic MAN in a blue-collar real world job. She must know deep down that academics can get pretty bullsh1tty from time to time, and that's what I think attracts her to me. We're compatible, but she's definitely at a whole different level academically than me, I think. I got her in almost all other departments though. She would be a good decision-maker about a lot of stuff for us if we ever Did get married. She's smart, and Knows what she wants.

She's already talking as if we're husband and wife. It's bizarre.