You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
that's dumb when most girls are shorter. at my school that girls is 6-1 or might even be 6-2, her geek boyfriend is no more than 5-8 or 5-9. wtf does she need to be wearing heels for? he's so dumb for being a geek and dateing a freakMOTU said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
it should bother everyone especially when she's wearing heelsRangerMIke said:
which classifys you as dumbFirestar786 said:
I can see why an insecure man would be bothered by this but why should a confident man be bothered by the height of his woman?greg z newengland said:
she's the insecure girl for wearing heels, a girl wearing heels who's over 6 feet screams insecure. her geek boyfriend hasn't ever had a girlfriend and would never have except that she incessantly flirted with him. he isn't cool and studys too much. what girl except for dumb and stupid wants that?sylvester the cat said:
Maybe he's a confident geek and it just doesn't bother him.greg z newengland said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.