Would you believe this excuse?

[Dogbreath]

Have a date planned and girl texts you saying

"Sorry my nana passed away this afternoon, I won't make tonight. Haven't been checking my phone, sorry to bail".

I say bullshyt. What do you guys think?

 

[xstang77]

Ahh it's iffy,depends on her follow up I'd say,and if its true it might take a while for her to think about your date.

 

[Yewki]

You'll know if she was lying next time you ask her out. If she flakes/rejects again with no counter, you'll know she's a low class liar and you can forget about her

For now just send your condolences and contact again next week, gotta give the benefit of the doubt

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

LIE: Chicks stay glued to their phone!

 

[Julian]

I believe her. Why? Because I TRY to give people the benefit of the doubt when theres a "death".

It takes a REAL piece of trash to use the death of a family member to get out of a date. So judge her by that...does she seem the type to do that? She could be but thats on you to decide. Just tell her "my condolenses...wish you and your family the best"...she will reach out to u if she is interested after

 

[blind_one]

I believe her. Why? Because I TRY to give people the benefit of the doubt when theres a "death".

I'm on the same boat.

Yet like Espi said, the kind of excuse does not matter really.

We could have a thread like that stickied " Best excuses you recieved ".

 

[The Duke]

I give them the benefit of the doubt because I'm a positive person and thats how I was raised. But the real world has taught me that most people are full of schitt. Don't let rose colored glasses cloud reality.

Take this with a grain of salt but when someone dies everybody usually calls everybody. Your phone is right beside you in times of trouble. And why did she feel the need to tell you she hadn't been checking her phone?

Analyzing and asking questions is the foundation for developing critical thinking skills!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Two points, as is TMK's usual way.

-As Yewki said you'll know if she's lying whether she follows up later on or not. I don't know many people who would say such a thing just to get out of a date, or even at all if it weren't true. You can give her the benefit and assume it's true.

-As for the 'phone checking' issue; guys, especially red pill guys need to get used to the idea of half truths. Half truths, also know as 'white lies', are classically used to protect the recipient from the gravity of the whole truth.
Women especially know that men get completely over sensitive about these things and therefore wrap whole truths up in a pretty half bow, as to protect poor little OP's feelings.
In this particular instance, if her family member has actually died, a date with the OP is now pretty low on her priority list, if not rock bottom. Her saying 'I've not checked my phone' = 'I've been checking my phone, but I have far more important sh!t going on than a sodding date with you right now'. She had the decency to let you know beforehand, which means she's likely telling the truth.

Put your big boy pants on, turn the sensitivity down to 9, and get on with life.

 

[playa99]

I have always been reluctant to not believe people when they say relatives have died. Did she counter with any offer? If she is willing to meet I can pretty much guarantee she isn't lying. If she isn't, your just gonna have to let it go and move on to the next one.

It's unlikely that she didn't check her phone, but it is understandable that you weren't her priority to contact. If it isn't a first date and someone you've been meeting for a while I will stand corrected.

 

[icantgetlaid]

Don't text her back ... wait to hear from her again ... if you REALLY like her and don't hear back wait several weeks and send her a greeting suggesting a get together.

 

[Jetleg]

Who cares, delete her number and move on, if she ever texts you again then consider meeting.

 

[El Payaso]

"I'm sorry to hear. My sincere condolences"

Delete number and find someone else.

 

[Von]

If she uses death as an excuse, she's trash. It happened to me 2 times, never heard from her again.

My advice, give her one last time in 1-2 weeks. No response = Delete her

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Before I clicked on this thread to enter it, I said to myself "No!".

If you have to ask this, it's probably bullsh!t.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I used to sell cars. We would always talk about common excuses people would give for having to leave once they got inside and started looking at numbers.

The managers would even have contests on the weekends to see which salesman would get the lamest sounding excuse.

Most common was "I have to go to a birthday party."

I saw a comedy once, guy dating a girl who pulled the "nana died" excuse, only the guy she pulled it on had heard it from her before about a year or so ago under different circumstances.

 

[RangerMIke]

Likely an excuse. In my experience when a women cancels for a real serious reason they usually do not go into detail. They will say... "Sorry, we've had a death in the family and I just can't make it tonight", and they leave the door open for something else later. The more detail you get... the more likely it's just an excuse.

We have ALL heard the flaky excuses from women... when this happens just back away and let her come to you and go after other women and put her out of your mind. It doesn't matter if the excuse is good or not, you act the same, you don't care and you go after other women.

 

[grayclif]

I do what I want and will usually offer no explanations or reasons...

This is a brilliant perspective. As I evlove I find that this is happening more and more. What I honestly struggle with is the comments after that I'm a dyck or an azzhole. Not caring about these sentiments is my next step.

"Has anybody told you before that your a real azzhole". That's a real stinger.

 

[guru1000]

This is a brilliant perspective. As I evlove I find that this is happening more and more. What I honestly struggle with is the comments after that I'm a dyck or an azzhole. Not caring about these sentiments is my next step.

I had a date last night, met from online. In person, she was a 6 (an 8 online) by observation of her sitting down and her face. So I cut the date short to about 25 minutes and left with her. As I walked with her for several blocks to my car/her transportation, I noticed she had a real nice azz. So I said, "Hey, you really have a nice azz."

She reponded, "Excuse me. A nice azz? What about my eyes, my face?" I responded, "Well, you do have a nice azz. Do you want to go back to my place and fvck?"

Then she started crying. So I said, "Hon, don't cry. What's your name?"

LOL. Ya, I'm going to hell.

 

[grayclif]

LOL. Ya, I'm going to hell.

Haha!!! Then I remember all those times they crudely lie and unemotionally "let me down easy". And I quickly snap out of it.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

I had a date last night, met from online. In person, she was a 6 (an 8 online) by observation of her sitting down and her face. So I cut the date short to about 25 minutes and left with her. As I walked with her for several blocks to my car/her transportation, I noticed she had a real nice azz. So I said, "Hey, you really have a nice azz."

She reponded, "Excuse me. A nice azz? What about my eyes, my face?" I responded, "Well, you do have a nice azz. Do you want to go back to my place and fvck?"

Then she started crying. So I said, "Hon, don't cry. What's your name?"

LOL. Ya, I'm going to hell.

Hahaha, Guru, you are the man!