Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would you be ok if your gf was friends with her ex-bf?

zekko

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Uberguy said:
But we still have mutual interests and mutual friends, so why on Earth are we supposed to be bitter enemies?
You don't have to be bitter enemies. But you don't have to be hanging out with them one on one either. That can be disrespectful to your partner, if you have one.

Uberguy said:
If any of my exes-turned-friends had a guy tell them to stop talking to me, they'd dump his ass
That just proves that you are a higher priority to her than her so called new boyfriend. Sounds like low interest to me.
If she dumps him, she's doing him a favor.

Uberguy said:
If you're Alpha, you know it, and you're not intimidated by other guys.
That's just exactly the attitude women want you to have. That way they can do whatever they want, with whatever guy they want, as long as they label him "friend". And if they happen to "accidentally" have sex together some time, it's okay, it was just a slip, because they're just "friends".
This attitude also allows women to accept any sort of date proposal from any new intriguing guy who may be hitting on her, as long as she labels it "going out as friends".

I'm not saying there could never be an innocent case of a male and female being "just friends" (although usually at least one of them wants something more). But accepting this kind of arrangement just sets you up for trouble down the road.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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And what if an ex-bf calls her once in a while (say 6 weeks) and they do not meet?
 

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One should listen to his own feelings. Do you feel comfortable with the situation? (whether she meets the dude twice everyday or has a phone convo with him once a year). You are the only one who decides what's acceptable to you.

If it's not acceptable to you, you tell her! In case she won't budge on the matter, I advice you to kick her to the curb. It's either that or let her walk over you...

Be willing to walk away.
 
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